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writes:My life seems to revolve around guilt and I have no idea how to handle this emotion. I feel guilty about everything from not bringing in the bin before being asked to do so, to telling my boss I can't work because I have to go out. I constantly put myself out to meet people's demands in order to avoid this feeling and it seems to be ruling my life. Please help.
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reader, layla +, writes (25 August 2006):
 i think that you never get time for yourself. i also think that you never get time to go out with your friends because your doing things for people.
my answer to your question would be to
1) go shopping for clothes that you woudlnt normally buy so you feel good in them.
2) go to the salon and spend money on yourself without thinking of anyone else.
3) go out for the night with your freinds and waer some new clothes.
i think that you should try one of these and switch your phone off and spend some time to yourself.
gd luck i hope everything turns out good for youself. xx
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reader, bridget +, writes (24 August 2006):
 hey there anon..
I think that you should do something for you for once and get some help.. Please do not be ashamed of getting help its better to be safe that sorry..
Goto your GP you could be suffering from an underlying difficulty from the past that is, in turn, ruining your present life and maybe your future aswell..
You might not think you do but you could have blocked something out like I did and it helps to get a little strength when you feel weak..
Good Luck
Jacqueline
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): Hey anonymous
Sorry to hear you're feeling this way right now.
Guilt is not a good emotion when you can't understand why you are feeling it.
I have found that people who feel irrationally guilty are usually quite loving and caring people.
Guilt is all about what you believe to be right and wrong.
It isn't really a matter of what others think of you but what you think of yourself. You feel guilt because you don't feel you are good enough, you are always letting yourself down.
To resolve guilt you must be able to forgive. I think you feel the way you do because you have received too much critisism in your life, maybe from a parent. You have been made to feel like you are never good enough. You must come to learn to forgive those who have put you down in this way. Then you must also forgive yourself and accept that you are who you are, and for that there is nothing wrong with you.
Anger is usually tied up in guilt. You seem to be angry at yourself, but you're actually angry at the people who have caused you to be so critical of yourself. When you can forgive, you loose the anger you have, which in turn looses the guilt.
I am inclined to suggest that you should talk to a professional about this, as they will be able to help you bring out the hidden reasons as to why you are so self-critical of yourself, and help you find ways in standing up for yourself, believing in yourself and putting yourself first.
I hope this in someway helps, good luck.
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