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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone. I'm about to admit to something bad so please don't be too harsh with me here.I have recently got into a new relationship with a man my age. We have been together for just over a month and were dating for about a month before that. I will readily admit that I got with him too quickly. I had been in a long term relationship with someone else until May and moved on very quickly to this new man. I do not regret what I did but I think that it means I have not committed fully to our relationship which isn't fair.I have been cheating on my new boyfriend since we got together. I haven't cheated in person but I have been having phone sex and skype sex with an old FWB which I know is so wrong. I know I'm being an awful person but I just can't stop doing it. I think it is because I got into this new relationship so quickly and now I am scared of commitment.I feel guilty but not really guilty enough to stop. I go a few days without texting the old FWB, telling myself I won't talk to him anymore, but somehow I always do in the end.I guess I am just asking what I should do. How do I make myself fully commit to my new man? Should I tell him about what I have done? How do I fix my poor behaviour?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2018):
 I think the best thing that you can do is end your relationship. There is no point in saying you will stay committed because you already cant help yourself. Cheating on a partner is soul destroying and can ruin is life forever and his trust in future partners. The kindest thing to do would be to tell him it is not working out for you, that you rushed in to things and let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2018): You're still young and want to experiment with others. You should break up with your boyfriend and enjoy being single. There's nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is cheating and dishonesty to your partner.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (15 August 2018):
 You need to stop being so selfish. You wouldn't like a BF who did this to you, so why would it be OK for you to do it?
You know it's wrong but YOU don't REALLY care.
So break up with your BF, stay single and do whatever you want with whomever.
You don't seem mature enough for a real serious relationship. Or just not in the right mind to be dating seriously.
And remember this.. what goes around comes around. So TREAT others as YOU would like to be treated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2018): Leave your bf. It's only been a couple of months. He can and will find better. Don't you worry. In the meantime, go on and keep degrading yourself for some disgusting old fuck who is using you for thrills and an ego boost. Don't kid yourself. He's doing this with you AND other women. You aren't special. Just easy, willing and convenient. Sad that you would stoop so low.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 August 2018):
 Your new boyfriend is the same age so that implies the fwbs and you have an age gap. Those nasty greasy old farts, right? Preying on young girls and can't maintain relationships with women their same age. Mid life crisis, whatever.
You may think you are getting the best of both worlds, a nice guy who will commit to you and also forbidden excitement on the side. The way to stop it is to look at yourself in the mirror, not literally. You are someone who's an opportunist, who would toy with other's emotions in order to get what you want. Who would lie to someone's face while calling them baby. Someone who does not have self control. Who doesn't treasure what's real and authentic. Right now you don't have value to give to the new man because you are not ready. You have to decide if you want a new relationship, or if you want to go back to your old ways. Or just be single to focus on yourself.
If the knowledge that you are in a relationship is not enough to stop sexting, and the only thing that could stop you is media censorship, it means you are not ready to commit. You would only be using your boyfriend to pass time.
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