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writes:I'm in desperate need of help, i have been with my boyfriend on and off for 3 years. We had a few one night stands with other people while we broke up. He is in the army so he is away alot, he went away for 5 months and i found out i was pregnant with his baby, so i told him, he was over the moon! He was always all over me and wanted to be with me all the time. He came back from being away for 5 months and had a month off, the first two weeks with each other was great, he was all over me and excited about being a dad. Then it came to the last 2 weeks and he stared spending time with his friends, he drinks and goes clubbing loads, he always has done. He started getting distant with me saying he needs to have fun with his mates and spend time with them. Is it cause im smothering him? I text him all the time to say i love you but he dosnt reply, it used to him who texts me saying i love you. its really hard for me as im 31 weeks pregnant. i just feel used and that he only wants to see me on his terms. I accused him of cheating a few times but didnt mean to and he finished it and said he dosnt want to be with me. I text him everyday after that telling him how much i miss him and a few days later he said he missed me and said were take things slow, were now back together but he is still distant. I have really got a feeling its my hormones, I was never this needy before. I dont want to finish the relationship as im scared he will meet someone else or sleep with someone else. Please helpYou are brave if you managed to read all that lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): I'd say he's mucking you about, not necessarily cheating, and unless you had good solid reasons to accuse him of cheating I'd say you were being silly.
If a guy gets accused often enough of cheating when he isn't, he'll think to himself that if he's going to be accused of it he might as well do it. He might as well have the fun if he's going to get the aggravation.
Just give him some elbow room. He's probably enjoying the last six weeks of your pregnancy because he figures the fun part of his life will be seriously curtailed once he's a dad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust want to know if it is me being silly or is it him mucking me about? i really do love him and cant bare to lose him
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reader, lexilou +, writes (27 July 2008):
 He does seem to be messing you about a bit but it could be because you are freaking him out with all these texts. Learn to relax a bit more especially in your condition. You dont need to bombard him with texts declaring your undying love all the time.
Give him a little space to get his head around the consequence of becoming a dad. If you do break up of course he will move on eventually but that is not a reason to stay with him x
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reader, sjwcool  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 to be honest every guy freaks out at some point when they find out they are going to be a father. he's extremely happy to be a dad but, it's going to change both your lives in a very profound way. when he's off with his mates or partying he's blowing off steam, destressing a very good thing. I would say as long as he's comming home to you just relax and allow him space to relax to. I have seen many realationships end just because they were always together. eventually both of you will get on eachothers nerves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): If you want to keep the relationship going, being afraid he's going to meet or sleep with someone else is not really a good enough reason for doing so.
Hormones or not, he seems to be a bit of a cad who's giving you the runaround.
So. What help are you after? I didn't really see a question anywhere in there.
lol.
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