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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:we met in jan and he started falling for me soon but never ever said that, later he flirted with other gals online. but now he is totally committed to me.but the problem is he never ever sends me gifts??his password is also on his ex's name and he told me that??? what is this?he tells me he loves me but then why does he fights?why doesnt he makes me feel special? why doesnt he go out of his way and send me something? why hasnt he changed his password?i cant trust him at all........please help me, this is long distance relationship.no one knows we are seeing each other.
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reader, xoen  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Dear Anonymous, You seem to really like this guy, but (to me at least) you seem to be asking for a lot so quickly. Start small, tell him how you feel about the password OR tell him you would like him to start surprising you with little gifts and such. Do not ask for all the things you want changed at the same time because this may seem over whelming to you boyfriend. Why is your relationship unknown to the world? I do not like giving "bad" suggestions but (to me at least) it almost sounds like the "ex-girlfriend" is not his ex, possibly more. It almost sounds like you may be the "other woman". I may be wrong, and hopefully I am, but I suggest starting with what I suggested first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): I am sorry this might not be the answer you want but I am not here to upset you or hurt you; I am only giving you an opinion and advice to the best of my knowledge with the informtation available;
I suggest you "kiss" this guy good bye; you should have a TALK with him; tell him how you feel; if he is not prepared to compromise and make certain adjustments; such as his password etc; WAVE him GOODBYE;
You DESERVE better; don't accept to be the second best in anybodies life; you deserve to be NUMBER ONE; the one and only;
I know it will be difficult; BUT you need to be with somebody that loves, respects and value you; somebody that you can TRUST; somebody that treats you with loving CARE;
ONLY YOU can make the decision;
BUT do take "Stock"; surely this is not what you want for the rest of your life? Then do something about it NOW!
YOur FUTURE is in your hands!
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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