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writes:Okay guys i need your advice....I'm 14 going on 15 and i am pregnant, i would really like to keep the baby but i am soo young, im not the type of person to give it up or have an abortion i think its so mean! my boyfriend says he will be with me every step of the way which is good :) but he wants me to have an abortion.I dont think i would be able to tell me my mum im so freaked out, i know i have to tell her she will realize, i mean she is my mum...but how can i tell her i know for sure she will kick me out!!Help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): okay so i'm 18, still living with my parents, and i'm pregnant. when i was with my bf and we talked about what would happen if i got pregnant, he said he'd be there for me as much as he could. so turns out i did get pregnant and he goes and runs away. he tells me he wants me to get an abortion and he didnt even call or text me to check up on me the days i was supposed to have it done. it was almost too late for me to get an abortion when i found out i was pregnant. so yea, as nice as your boy seems now, don't rely on him.
i am choosing to give my baby up for adoption because i know there's a family out there who would be able to raise my baby in a happy, loving family with a steady income. you should maybe consider this. the way i see it is, im giving my baby away, not kuz i dont want him, but because i love him so much, i want him to grow up in a family who will love him as their own. i'm keeping in contact with the family who i'm giving him to.
as for your mom, i dont know her personally and idk what kind of person she is but i doubt she will kick you out. she may or may not want you to keep the baby though. talk to her about it. being at such a young age and pregnant, your mom is your best bet for help, both emotionally, morally, and financially. she's the best person to go to for help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): I dont get it. He will stay with you every step of the way but he wants you to have an abortion? I think you need to talk, how is it fair that you have this child when 50% of its genetics doesnt want it....not exactly a good environment to bring a child into is it. And it will certainly get harder once you have the baby, especially if he still feels the same.
Its a little immature to say you cant have an abortion because 'it is mean', you need to be making the decission based on what kind of life you can provide it with and whether you have the strength emotionally to deal with this child if your boyfriend doesnt stick around.
To answer your question, your mom would be a very hard woman if she would kick you out on the street with a baby but it does happen, look at the worst case scenario, if she kicked you out what would your options be, could you provide a safe,stable environment for a child?
Please talk to your boyfriend first and seriously think about what you are asking of him. It is true that the earlier your mom know the easier it will be for you....thats if she is supportive, if not at least you will have more time to sort yourself out. If you choose abortion make sure that it is for the right reasons - your mom need never know.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 You could be wrong about your mum.
No rational and right thinking mum would be so cruel as to
throw away the child and baby out into the streets.
She brought you into this world and sacrificed so much to
bring you up and do you think she will just throw you out
because you are pregnant?
The earlier you tell her, the better it is for you.
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