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anonymous
writes:I hooked up with my neighbor the other day, I have been interested in her for a while now. We were making out when she started to bite/suck my lower lip, it was really kinky. I decided to do it back to her but I guess I was too rough because we had to stop; her lip was getting swollen and puffy! Awkward! Then she had to leave to work. What should I say when I see her? I guess I'm just a crappy kisser and I most likely won't get that opportunity again..I said sorry and everything..any tips on how to act around her now?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 It doesn't mean that you are a bad kisser, some people like kissing rough others don't. It is normal for someone's lip to swell and go red if they are kissing roughly. Just take a note from it and learn. Just do it really gentle next time. You do not need to say anything to her as such, you can just apologise for being so rough if you feel the need to and see how it goes from there.
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reader, G's_Girl  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 Hi Anonymous,It was your impression you are a "sucky kisser" ;-) she might not have felt that way...Sometimes when you kiss a lot, it's normal for lips to get swollen and puffy - a sign lips have had attention ;-) It will pass, and unless she says it was painful, it should be ok.Don't say anything when you see her, just act like nothing happened. If she behaves normally, then it's your cue to continue as usual. Kiss her gently at first, and as passion builds, be excited but remain gentle. During a moment where you pause, ask her if she likes what you're doing? Her answer would be yes, or to continue kissing you, which means she likes it ;-) If she avoids you, or tries to avoid kissing you, then you have your answer. That is when you can say you noticed you might have been a little too rough last time, you're sorry and you will do better with more practice, and proceed to do just that ;-)Don't berate or judge yourself too harshly. Nobody can learn these things in theory, or in books, it takes practice, and it helps when you feel connected and have feelings for the other person, then it comes naturally. It will be different with different people, and can be amazing when you're with the right one.Just be yourself around her now, be confident, believe in yourself, everyone had to start somewhere. Stay positive, and give yourself more opportunities to improve, and feel better about it.Enjoy and Best Wishes.
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