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*irstylou
writes:I need your help. It's all to do with a 16 yr age gap between me and this guy i really like. Im 19 and he is 35. iv been talkin 2 him for 4 months now and for a while we have been hanging out with each other, he takes me to the cinema or invites me around his to watch a film etc. we are more than friends, we have the kiss and cuddle etc. Well what is bothering me is that he wont tell anyone about me, we've discussed this before and told me that he is afraid what people will say (his family and friends) iv told my family about him and they are fine with it all, theyr just glad iv found someone i trust and treats me well. I feel sad that im kept a secret. I want to tell him that i want something to happen between us nd ask him will he tell others about me.. but by me doing that im afraid i will scare him off or something :( i dont know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): Well, age has never been a problem with me, but i think it is with him. He sound uncomfortable with it and just cannot tell anyone. I'm glad that your family are ok with it. If you love someone you shouldnt be putting age in the way, just love the person not the age. He sounds embarrassed. Stop worrying that you will scare him off or you will never be able to talk to him about anything in the future. Have a chat with him and find out what is going on. Tell him that you want to be with him and dont see why he cannot tell others. If he has a problem with it now, what will he be like in the future?
Take care and be strong.
xx
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