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writes:I really, really like this guy. We've known each other for about three-four years now. He's going to graduate college in the spring, and I'm going to in two years. We've been in theatre classes together this whole time. He's so much fun to be around. He's cynical and biting, and I love that. We have long conversations about the stupidest things and it makes me smile so much to be around him. We never do anything alone, really, just in groups because I'm a coward and can't suggest that. I'm afraid he's going to leave at the end of this semester and I'm never going to see him again. We're both single, and I'd really like to be with him. He has confidence issues, though. He thinks he's ugly and unlikeable. I think he's attractive, but he brushes me off whenever I try to tell him that. I'm not very confident myself. I think I'm too big to be desirable, and at 21 I've never been in a relationship, so this is all new to me. I want him to know that someone does like him. There are a lot of girls in our group that joke about being with him, but I think he's really lonely in actuality. But I rarely get to see him lately. Every time we get together, I fall even harder for him. I just don't know what to do. Help?
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reader, meg-lees  +, writes (1 March 2011):
I'm here to contradict that last answer. Yes you will feel great for a while, but when he does leave it will kill you. It's funny, i'm going through something so similar, and i only met him last november. And i couldn't bear the wondering, and he's known everything since the begining of this year. It may take a lot. It took me a big push to tell him how i felt (i heard he got a girlfriend & in the end it wasn't true), but once he knew i had no regrets, i was so happy i'd told him, instead of wondering how he might feel, i found out how much he likes me back, but how he really feels he shouldn't have anything when he's going to leave this summer, and it kills me a little inside every now and again. But we are almost best friends. But not in a brother/sister way. Like really close friends. He's sure nothing will happen, but i can't help but hope, even though i know it could be a bad idea! One thing is whether you and this guy will ever be able to have anything. But definately don't leave it wondering what might have happened. You really need to tell him how you feel :) It makes things a lot clearer, and this is from experience. Good luck!! x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 March 2011):
 Well if you dont want to lose him by the end of the term when he leaves then you better find the confidence with in you to ask him out alone. Its not as difficult as it seems. Next time you see him ask him would he like to go for a drink with you sometime, or even for a cup of coffee after college. Once you get him alone then just say to him that you really like him and see where it goes from there. Just remember you have nothing to lose here and you will only regret it if you dont do anything about how you feel and he leaves and you dont see him again. So bite the bullet and just tell him you like him. Its the only way to do it.
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