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writes:I've just become exclusive with a guy I've been seeing on and off for the last 12 months. He's told me he loves me and I'm the only one it just took him a while to realize it. I was at a friends tonight who was on her dating site and I saw his profile come up and said recently online. I'm feeling really hurt and scared that maybe he's not as serious as he said he was. The texting also seems to have slowed down in the last week. Should I be worried?
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reader, Basschick +, writes (28 September 2012):
 Were you aware he had this dating profile information out there? Maybe you should create a "fake" profile and see f you can "meet" him on line to see how he acts, what he says and how he conducts himself. Then you'll know. But P.S you can't tell anyone you're doing this. Not your family, not your girlfriends. It has to be your secret. That way if he behaves like the wonderful gentleman you think he is, you can quietly close your account and move on without feeling weird. Good luck.
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (28 September 2012):
 Yes, you'd be a fool not to be worried.
I am calling this guy's bluff. If he is on a dating site and he was recently active, he is playing the field -- or at least keeping his options open.
That certainly doesn't sound like love to me.
What makes you think this guy loves you -- other than his words? Remember, talk is cheap -- actions are priceless. What actions has he taken to prove his love to you of late? Please note that having sex is not love -- it goes WELL beyond that physical act.
I think the writing is on the wall for this one and the sooner you figure out his true intentions the better. (Perhaps you could have your friend send him an inquiry on the dating site to see if / how he responds...)
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2012): Please dont jump to any conclusions as he could have been online to remove his profile which then can take 24 hours to be removed on many occasions i was accused of this and i was actualy removing my profile but never was i believed an it ended between us
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