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writes:I have been chatting to a guy online for a couple of weeks (from a dating site). We have arranged to meet up in a couple of weeks time but he seems to keep finding excuses not to send me a picture of himself. I'm not sure if I should be worried about this or not? I have found him on facebook and he looks okay, the account seems genuine enough and matches everything he has told me about himself. In fairness he hasn't asked to see a picture of me either but I just can't imagine not seeing one before we meet! Should I be worried?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2015): do not meet him then simple ..
IF I was you ask for a picture of him from today ...so you can compare it to the facebook one ...
And of course the reason is ' sorry but a girl has got to be cautious about this and we have never met '
If he chooses not too then of course you are not that important to him
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 February 2015):
 I find it odd in this day and age that he doesn't have SEVERAL selfies that even HE approves off to send to you. To me that sounds bogus, if he says he can't send a picture. What guy in his 20's doesn't have a phone that can take pictures? HECK, I'm in my 40's got a crappy cell phone but it can take pictures, so can my desktop and my tablet.. So what was his excuse again?
The Facebook account COULD be bogus too. You said it matches what he told you, well yea.... if HE sticks to a "script" why not have a FB page to match?
My question is why hasn't he suggested you see his FB page?
Have you ASKED him if he has one?
To me it seems like he COULD have a GF, and he is avoiding sending you a picture for that reason.
When you go met him don't go alone. Bring a friend. And if he is the guy from the FB page, you friend can hang back and if he is a no-show then you know he could have been a catfish or got cold feet.
Iffy, honey... very iffy.
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (11 February 2015):
 As long as you meet (and stay) in a public place, it shouldn't be too big of a deal - but do make sure you walk on the cautious side, as with any stranger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2015): He's not showing his face; because it is likely he's on several dating sites; or has a girlfriend.
If he makes excuses not to show himself before you meet; it's so he can see you first. If he doesn't like what he sees, he can bailout.
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