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writes:hi im 21 and have a little girl she only 13 months old and i found out a few months ago i was pregnant with twins well at the time i was not ready for them and was going throw a bad time with my boyfriend i was really ill and i could not cope with it so i had an abortion that was my first and last abortion i will ever have i really think i did the wrong thing and im so upset with myself for doing it i wish id never dont it i really really miss my babys now im crying just typing it thats how upset i am twins run in my mums and dads side do you thing i will ever have twins again iv hade the 3 months jab and im scared i wont be able to have children any more please some 1 talk to me i really need to talk to some 1 i just want 1 more chancethanks for reading
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): I'm sorry you've had to go through such an experience. Any decisions we make in life we feel at the time they are for the best (no matter how large or small). You can't beat yourself up over doing something you thought right or you might as well question everything in your life. I'm not saying you shouldn't mourn but what I am saying is you need to look at what you have in your life and move forward with that. It won't be easy but it is a starting point in which you'll have to go back to and gain comfort from several times just as a matter of getting a perspective of where you are and where you want to go in life. Stay strong I really do feel for you, you took a step in the right direction by seeking advice (be proud of that). If it's all getting too much beyond your control there are many support groups throughout the country. NHS website is a good starting point or consult a doctor who should be able to point you in the right direction.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (1 March 2008):
 Go to your GP and ask for a referral to an NHS counselling service specialising in abortion issues. The jab you mention is contraception I presume. I would say that it usually doesn't have long-term effects and as a young woman there is every chance of successful pregnancy in the future. However, I wouldn't try to get pregnant now as you have to get yourself in the right frame of mind and also give your body a rest.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 hey sweetheart - first of all i am so sorry for your situation, i can only imagine wat you must be going through. well i think that you should check if there are any groups or counselling sessions to go to for women who have been in the same situation. these would probably be better then going alone as you would be able to talk to women who have been through this. as for your worries about whether or not you can have more twins - im sure you could but i'd advise that you go to your GP and see what he can tell you hun. in my opinion, i think that you made the right decision - think about how it would be if you did have these babies - they would be brought into a world where the parents are having problems, and with you being sick it could have affected you. just try and talk to your GP and talk to ppl who have been through this. if you want any more advice or just want to talk, just email me!! good luck hun, and try not to beat yourself up too much!xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): awww honey wish i could give you a hug right now and tell u it will all be ok, i too terminated a twin pregnancy when i was 17, im 39 now and i still think of them often and wonder how different life would have been if id gone ahead and given birth, time really does ease the pain darling and the procedure is so sterile and safe there is little chance it would ruin your chances of having more children in the future, i now have a beautiful son who has recentlyt gone off to college and im also a foster mum to children whose relationships have broken down at home, i finally feel i am giving something back to other kids and this has helped me a lot to come to terms with my decision, to have 3 children would have been hard for financially and i didnt feel mentally able to cope at the time. At the time i had the abortion i planted 2 trees in the garden one for each child lost and continue to watch them grow and think of my babies that never were. we dont live in a fantastic world and life is a struggle, just because a pregnancy has occured doesnt mean it has to continue, enjoy your little one and dont beat yourself up over the decision one day you will see it was the right thing at the time, good luck honey godbless xxxxx
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reader, starfairy +, writes (1 March 2008):
 You need to visit your doctor or find out if there is a local counsel group for people who have had an abortion. Your doctor surgery probably run a counselling service - if you make an appointment and see your doctor he can arrange counselling for you on the NHS, and it usually doesn;t have a waiting list.
You sound like you are shouldering alot on your own with no support - message me if you need to talk, even just to get it off your chest xx
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