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writes:im 23 soon to be 24, ive never had a boyfriend,i was kind of seeing this guy and then it finished as i would not sleep with him untill i was sure. im still a virgin, all i can see in myself is im fat and ugly even tho my friends say im not fat or ugly. how can i go about getting a bf. three of my bestmates are in relationships and im feeling really lonely since i meet this guy and then its over in a flash i was so happy then.Has anyone else had this probleam i feel like im the only one whos 23 and never had a boyfriend or had sexPLEASE HELP
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reader, x.BrokenxHearts.x +, writes (19 December 2007):
 Hiya, listen i'm only 17 and I lost my virginity when I was 15 and it was a huge mistake.
I actually really admire you.
I have had so much hassle with my love life it's unbelievable. I've totally given up which doesn't sound too promising considering i'm only 17 but i've been getting really stressed out with guys that i've decided I just want to be on my own.
I wish I had waited like you for someone who I know is right for me.
Keep waiting you will find that special person just stop putting yourself down.
It will come when you least expect it.
xx
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (19 December 2007):
 Be grateful you got out of that relationship would have been worse if he dumped you after you had slept together (some men are just jerks)relationships and love come to all off is when wqe least expect it dont go looking for the right guy he will find you, put your mind at rest it will happen to you one day you will find a guy who you will be comfortable enough to sleep with and you will be happy, untill then dont worry, be happy being free and single and knowing that you didnt give your virginity up to some loser and that you saved it for that special someone.
Your strong probably stronger then you think and thats an amazing quality so dont let the fact your a virgin bring you down embrace it be proud to be a virgin i know lots of people (me included) who wished we still were.
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reader, Sweet111 +, writes (19 December 2007):
Hi, I'm a guy in the same position as you, although be it a year younger. Its not something i'm proud to say, but there will come a time when things will change. It seems I have the same qualities as you... you seem to be as unconfident about yourself as me,yes, I'm overweight but people say I'm not to try and keep me happy. As for the guy you used to see, you're better off without him... all he had to do was wait. I was kinda in the same boat as you where I was with a girl I thought at the time I was in love with, we slept together on numerous occasions but it didnt develop into a sexual relationship. It was obvious to everyone else that she was only using me for money...I guess that's made me even more shy and unconfident around women, and as you say, all of our mates are in relationships, it seems like life is really being a B***h, or we are lucky in the way that when we do find someone who loves us for being us, we could be made for life.Don't let it get you down, I've been there, had pretty horrible thoughts like that the world would be better off without me, so just dont let it get you down!!
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reader, starfairy +, writes (19 December 2007):
 I have to say, GOOD that you're not with this guy - what a jerk! He dumped you because you wouldn't have sex. Wouldn't you feel gutted if you'd saved your virginity all this time only to throw it away on a twat like him!!
I say fair play to you, keeping your virginity. All too many of us throw it away to peer pressure far too soon (myself unfortunately included). You get to make yours special, with someone special.
Whether you are fat or ugly is irrelevant. Guys are totally attracted to CONFIDENCE!! So you might think you have a few extra pounbds on the tum...So what?! You strut your stuff and show off your curves, guys'll fall at your feet.
They don't want a girlfriend who's going to be constantly whining "Am I fat? Do these jeans make me look fat? Am I fatter than your ex? Am I ugly?". They'll run a mile.
Look in the mirror, recognise your good points, and flaunt them! Maybe you have big beautiful eyes, accentuate them! Maybe you have a gorgeous smile, use it more often!
If you still feel down, nothing makes a female feel great than a makeover, or at least a new haircut, a new outfit, and a new lip gloss. Go treat yourself.
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