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writes:I'm 23 year old Virgin. When I say I'm a virgin, I mean like I never even kissed or touched a girl in any sexual manner whatsoever. Hell, I can't even look at a girl I find attractive without my body trembling.So... I watch a lot of porn. However at the same time I keep reading around that sex in porn isn't very realistic, but in what ways? What is real sex like in real life compared to what I watch in porn? In what ways should my mind not be tainted by what I see if I ever get to be with a woman?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2013): I've seen clips (Only the scat clips) but I never bought them or rented them and I know that fantasies can be addicting, but the problem was that I found them accidently on the internet which suddenly dragged me into it. But other time they had already devloped into me slowly through regular movies even if they weren't R rated. At one point most of my troubles had already started all because my job doesn't give me a normal work schedule and the worst part about it is that there were times were I would be scheduled to work until 1:00am.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2013): Take it from someone who knows: stop watching it. Some may tell you it's harmless now, but if you're not careful you will find that you become addicted. That happened to me, and I am fighting the addiction. Like you, I've had confidence issues with women. But one day, you'll wake up and realize a lot of time has passed, and that is time you WON'T get back. This is a lonely path, and trust me, you don't want to go down it. Don't make the same mistake that I made. You'll hate yourself, get angry, and isolate yourself from everyone around you. Fantasies can be addicting, and I thought I could replace real relationships with a female with porn and masturbation (another addiction I have). I was wrong. Things will work out for you, and after a few days off the porn, you'll feel great and relaxed. Just give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2012): Hi
You could ask girls anonymously. Have you never tried 'webcamsex'? You can find people who want to do it easily enough and hide your face. You get real live sex and you can ask her what's she's doing, what she likes... At the same time you don't need the fake things that porn give you and you'll get some experience and an opportunity to learn something. Doing this anonymously will help you a little with the trembling when you'll meet that special someone in real life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2012): Thanks for the replies.
I already had an idea though about most of the things you guys have said. I don't really watch the plastic mainstream porn anyways and always look towards amateur stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2012): you only need to know ONE difference: girls in porn are aggressive and don't wait for the guy. Girls in real life are a bit shy (or act shy), which means they expect YOU to approach them and start the conversation, initiate the sex, or anything else. Even if they are not shy, they still prefer the male to make the first move.As you see, it will be a lose-lose situation if you don't approach the girls. Go out and meet some real girls. Experiment with them(and experiment means both win and fail). But who cares if you fail? There is an infinite number of girls out there, and practice makes perfect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2012): Remember that porn is just another movie, so everything you see is being acted. The players are following a script or directions.Also, don't expect that the next girl you see hitchhiking want to have sex with you. I think that your problem with girls is that you are too nervous to even speak to them. However, you must try and connect with one. You see, girls aren't much too different than guys, and most will be nice to you if you reach out to them. Girls are, after all, human as well. And maybe you should stop watching porn also, that may be one of the things that makes you nervous as well, or so some psychology researches say. You should look more into that as well.
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