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writes:I need help. im a virgin and im ready to have sex with my boyfriend but im just scared that im going to be rubbish because ive never done it before. he's had sex a few times, what if im awful at giving a BJ? please give me any advice as to what to do PLEASE!!!1 Reply to this Question
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reader, redbutterfly  +, writes (30 December 2010):
whatever you do don't do it. it's a mistake i swear. i don't think you're ready you just need to think things more clearly i mean look at yourself trying to please him on your first time. No it's supposed to be special for you and for him because he has that honor. You should be remeembered not forgotten. So think about what you're doing think about what he's like and i swear you think 7-8 months is enough trusst me it isn't. wait till you're married because he could leave and depending on your age if you're still in school chances are very slim that you'll stay together
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): try not to think...just let it happen! as long as your enjoying yourself he will be too! if you feel awkward then dont bother hiding it, just try to keep the ball rolling and play with it!
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reader, Odds +, writes (30 December 2010):
 It's natural to be nervous the first time. But, if you're sure you're ready (and you should try to be sure), just relax.
BJ's - just don't use your teeth. You don't have to deep throat it until you're all ready - go as deep as you're comfortable with and cover the rest with your hand.
Sex - just relax, ask him to go slow (to minimize the hurt the first time), and try to get into it. Enthusiasm is more important than technique, especially at first. If you're going to be having sex regularly, you can experiment to find what you like, but until then, just try to enjoy it.
Biggest thing to keep in mind is that, when you first get with a guy, enthusiasm is all you need. Technique can come a little later. If he leaves you, it won't be because you're "rubbish," it'll be because he's a player - if you're sure he's not, go into it confidently.
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