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writes: Hiya, Well there's this boy who I really like and last night we got a bit close, closer than we have got before. I'm having a party next week and he's invited but he doesn't know whether he is coming or not. I think he wants to move things a step closer, but he says I'm too frigid. The thing is, I think he is right. I'm a virgin and I really want to have him so badly but I've gotta get over this fear of being really really close. How do I do that? Please help!!! :(:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx 4 the advive robin, thats has actually helped i hope it works, we do cuddle loads n i love them so much n i love him loads as well i just wanna take things further but like i sed i frezze but i am rly gunna try n relax n we any luck i wont frezze n i will b able to go through wiv it, thnx ur a star xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2006): when you're ready to have sex, you won't feel nervous about it - not in the way you're describing. you might feel a little nervous about how sex might change the relationship, but you'll feel completely comfortable with the guy - you'll be excited about it and completely in to it, without all the reservations. it's not that you're frigid, it's that you're not ready and this guy is pressuring you. he sounds like a real jerk.
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reader, tux  +, writes (2 April 2006):
 I would say that it's not necessarily true that he just wants you for sex. though, it is a possibilty. before and if you give him your virginity, make sure this is something you want and not something he is pushing you into. My advice is to just take it slow. If he doesnt want to go that slow then he's not worth it and should just move on.
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (2 April 2006):
 Hey chick!! well i know what you mean by ur afraid of getting to close- ecspecially if ur a virgin. ive been supposively "going out" with this guy for about a year, and we are kinda like friends with benefits. well i have so many fantasies with this guy, and as soon as we finally get the chance to make some of those fantasies come true, i freeze up, and its hard to get too close to him even though i love him with all of my heart. My suggestion for you is to try your best to relax and take a chance every once and a while.He is not there to judge you, and i think that if got closer to him, he's think that you were the best treasure that could ever happen to him. Althoug, if you do not to get any closer to him, tell him about it, and he will for sure respect your decision, and stop when he thinks that you are about to tense all up and everything. So relax and have fun. To release that tenseness, start to cuddle with him alot more than kissing or anything beyond that point. Cuddling with him will release that stress. Good luck
robin
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx for the advice, i know u say forget this guy but i cant i like him soo much, i may even have feelings 4 him am not sure but i think i am ready but then the otha day we was that close i like froze. i really think am prepared to lose my virginaty to him but am rly nervous about it. i still need help!! :(:(:(
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (2 April 2006):
 the guy isnt worth your time, he trying to pressure you into a sexual relationship when he know you arent ready. just because you dont feel ready doesnt make you frigid. all goes to show that you are your smart instead of going with you urges, you decide to wait. you should save you virginity to someone who loves and respects you. the guy just wants you for sex forget him
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