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writes:Well in order for people not to think I'm nuts I have to explain Myself. I am a 19 year old female and I have been in a relationship with my 27 year old boyfriend for 2 years. We always try to be intimate and I try to loose my virginity to him but I'm such a punk and it hurts so much that I always end up backing out. Hes understanding but I know that a man has intimate needs. We recently moved into our own apartment together because not to long ago I went to the hospital because I had been feeling nausea and dizziness in my job and they told me I was pregnant. It came to a surprise because I really didnt think the chances of getting pregnant were high if I was a virgin. Now, how am I a virgin if I'm pregnant? You are questioning yourself right? He has never stuck a finger or his penis inside of me (sorry if I'm being to bold), but his sperm has been on the outer part of my vagina and on the entrance of my opening. I hope you guys understand what I'm trying to say =(! The point is I have an appointment to the clinic on the 27th and the doctor was so upset last time because I wouldnt let them check me with that instrument they use to check how far your fetus is from your belly button.. I've been planning to loose it to my boyfriend before the 27th because I don't want to loose it to an instrument but it really hurts really bad everytime we try. Now that Im pregnant I'm always tired, more sensitive than ever, and always so sleepy. Besides wanting to loose it to him, I want to satisfy my man because I know I'm capable of doing it but I just need to quit being a punk!!!! It hurts so much... any suggestions please?!?!?!?!?!?!
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reader, Finicky One +, writes (16 January 2009):
 Well please don't get mad at me for this:
You should try not to punk out. Maybe a little foreplay will help ease it a bit? If you have to, bite, scratch, whatever to keep from quiting. Does he do oral? Maybe he should finger you(sorry for the bluntness). Umm...think about this, the pain is only there when first entry, but subsides when your vagina is use to it. Have him make slow grinding circles around your spot and make you want him more. You vagine should want to open up. The deal is, you have to be sexually ready in order for the penetration to work. Oh, and if there is still pain, hold your breath or something.
If that doesn't help, then I suggest that you(like I said) hold your breath, and let him jam himself in there quick. Trust me, I've had that happen to me, because It wouldn't fit when he was nice and gentle, so I had to brace myself, but your vagina will open.
Hope that helps a little.
Oh, and CONGRADULATIONS on your pregnancy! How you got pregnat is really understandable. (smile)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): http://www.vaginismus.com/
Talk to your doctor about this.
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