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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi. My gf split up 2 months ago and we chatted online for a month after that and then there was complete 1 month no contact after that. We split cause she felt she needed sometime to be alone and decide on a career path. But i got drunk last, missed her too much and called her on a weekend but caller id was not displayed. She chatted to me today (3 days later) asking if it was me cause she was concerned about me and that i was looking for her when i called late night. I told her it wasn't me. I am still in love with her and its clear she she still misses me and thinks of me. She stays online in chat late night not doing any work just to c if i want to chat. I feel I should be honest and tell her it was me who called. Well that needs not to be said as well cause she knows that it was me. cause she texted me saying even if it was me it was ok. I don't know what to do think or say. I am a mess since she is gone. I know i haven't given enough background here but I just want to know what does this all mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2013): Like the last poster said she definitely still CARES for you, as she's clearly worried about you- guessing the drunken call was probably quite emotional right? Look ya know what forget any pride you have, be honest and get your feelings out in the open- she seems quite caring and genuine and will probably give you an honest answer- if she still rejects you well how can you tell someone to move on? It's like recovering from alcohol poisoning or something- takes a lot of time and healing. At least you'll have some closure. I suggest writing down your feelings just get it all out on paper- you would not believe how much this helps, it's like relaxing in a bubble and looking down upon the anguish and feelings,in a detached way. I find it helps in the short term definitely- don't be embarrassed , write a diary? We've all been in this situation and you feel now like you're never guna be ok but in time, you'll learn to cope. It'll always leave a scar but the scar won't always be itchy and sore. And maybe who knows if she's in the right place in a few years? You need ATM to focus on just getting over this, and you'll obv break down but you can get through this! Wish ya well :) x
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reader, Nicole.x +, writes (8 July 2013):
 I think that from what you have said it is obvious that your ex girlfriend may still care for you, however caring about someone and loving and wanting to be with someone are two different things. For your own sake you need to find out whether there can be anymore you and her and if not walk away! Time is a great healer and maybe in time you two can be friends but if that's all that's ever going to be you need to move on!
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