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writes:Hi yalls , im a gay virgin and i really wanna have sex and there's this cute cool experienced guy that's a bit older than me but he's cool and nice and well i'm thinking like maybe i should just have sex with him because i think i'd like it lol. But then some friends say i should wait for the one and i don't think he's the one but i don't know if i care because i wanna know what anal sex is like (i have done other stuff before with practical strangers, but never anal) and so yeah i have no idea what to do and i feel like if i dont decide im gonna literally die. You have to help me please. ok bye and thanx!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2016): Original poster here. Thanks for the comments, but I'm still confused. Some of you say go for it. Which sounds great but then others bring up STDs and its like oh, maybe I'll just never have sex. I want to have experience for a future lover but I also don't want to be "tainted" I guess haha. I think I'll probably not have sex with him but I really wanted to.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (20 August 2016):
 If it just the anal sex that you need to experience why not try some sort of substitute first. Is it the sensation of it, or is it the act of being subdominant?
Waiting for someone you love sounds good to most of us however the gay world can be a strange jungle. You would do well to 1. either enter it with a trusted friend, or 2. enter with a compasionate experienced man who will point out the pitfalls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2016): First and foremost, remember that anal sex is a high risk sexual activity for HIV. Use condoms every single time.
Being new to the gay world, I think you should take the advice of your friends. You should wait until you find someone who really likes you; and will care about how he treats your body. Ask if they have been tested for HIV, and determine if they can prove it. AIDS is not a joke. Young gay men are far too dismissive of the fact that there is no cure. You'll be on pills for the rest of your life.
You claim you'll die if you don't have anal sex? That doesn't sound mature or sensible. If you're not careful and find the wrong guy, dying may just be the outcome.
Not to mention other sexually transmitted diseases.
Everything comes in due time. I think you should get accustomed to forming meaningful relationships and getting to know people before thrusting yourself into the promiscuous gay stereotype. You can't be indiscriminate about who pokes his penis in your rectum; because that is an entrance for STD's. So cool your jets kiddo! You don't want to form a reputation for yourself you'll regret later on. Loose behavior becomes the talk of the town. Then the right guy comes along, and he'll think twice; because you haven't been careful.
Make sure whomever you decide to take that leap with, is clean. He must use condoms, and you both should be responsible gay men. You plan to have sex with other men if you don't form an exclusive relationship. You'll carry whatever you caught from him to somebody else.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 August 2016):
 You can try to get touchy feely with the guy first at the very least, have a make-out session and then just play it by ear. Maybe it feels good and right, or maybe it feels weird and you decide to stop mid-action. You're allowed to do that, you know. So if you're curious, go ahead and try, and just say stop when it doesn't feel okay to you any more.
But USE CONDOMS. Gay experienced men have a strong reputation for sleeping around, and thus have a higher likelihood of carrying STD's. This is the reason why gay men aren't allowed to donate blood, because of this reputation (even though it's stupid, because they always test you before donating anyways...). So take your precautions. Always use condoms. Or, ask him to get tested and show you his results (resent results from within the last month and make sure he hasn't had any new partners since then).
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (20 August 2016):
 Gotta do it sometime. Why not now and with someone you fancy. For pete sake people can wait a life time for the "one". Don't want to end up being a 40 year old virgin. Casual sex is meant to be fun and for someone like yourself what better way to get some no strings attached experience? Be open and honest that this is your first time if you do decide. When you do find someone worthy of more then you will be able to give them and yourself a far more fulfilling sexual relationship. Just be sensible and love yourself enough by ALWAYS USING PROTECTION and say "IF IT"S NOT ON- THEN IT's NOT ON".
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