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writes:Dear aunty What can I say, love is somewhat one of those misteries that I do not seem to understand. Firstly I am typical drama queen when it comes to relationships, mature in my work life but a child sometimes in my personal, I blame my pass but how can I take to my future?? I met the person I m planning on building a life with, problem one we live about 400km appart we try and spend as much time with each other as we can but doubt still seems to play part in our lives, my partner has got big problem health and personal and I am trying to undestand and be supportive, but seems sometimes that I cannot do enough. How do I make this work, I am planning to move closer but I need to know that this is stable and that I do not have to be scared that the future is not so unstable, for instance we had a bit of a tift this weekend and since then it seems that the silence is cracking my scull my partner says he is in a weared space and I am left guessing what is on that mind space.... I was unreasinable and being childish and did not trust were as I should have so how do I make this better. I love this person so much and cannot imagine my world with out them in it. Reply to this Question
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 Oh hunny Im glad you found this helpfull you take care of u 2 with lots of love MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, ChrisP +, writes (7 July 2008):
ChrisP is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thanks guys
I have been looking at this and thinking to myself, what is wrong and then I realise that there is only problems whenyou look for them, I am mature enough to understand pain and I am also mature enough to know that we all need time to grow with each other, I am allowing feelings of helplessness to take over, and in matter of fact I am being all me and not the other. I know that our relationship is strong enough to last and to over come these problems and at the end od the day I think it will only make us stronger.
once again thank you for taking the time to read my question and bring a very good overview on this.
CPxxxx
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (6 July 2008):
Hunny
You say your partner is unwell, So therefor will need alot of attention help and understanding...Its hard when we to need the same. You seem the type of person who needs alot of love understanding and care and if you are giving it, And feel you are not getting enough then this could affect you as you say your past was not to good...Take your past (its not easy) how would you now as an adult turn things around so they were better, if you go back can you think its not your fault but maybe I can learn from this, Take something negative and turn it into a possitive..And talk with your partner hunny. It takes alot of soul searching and trying to understand others to be able to understand why you may react to certain situations as you do now..But once you start a little at a time then things may become clearer and then easier to understand and comunicate about sweetheart...I hope that made a little sense with love MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 It sounds like you have a big gap in your communication...Arrange to go see your boyfriend, stay for the weekend, and have a good long chat, make sure you're noth on the same page as to what you want, and tell him your fears about the future etc...
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