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writes:I have a problem that is jeopardising most of my hopes for a romantic relationship, and I'd really like to get some kind of outside perspective on it, because personally I can't understand where it's come from or why I feel like this.I am made very uncomfortable by the thought of social situations involving people that I am attracted to, even when I know that the feeling is mutual. I also find the thought of eating around somebody that I like very uncomfortable. I couldn't do anything with my ex while we were still together, because I was embarrassed of pretty much everything. Begrudgingly, I let him take me bowling. Thing is, at the time, I'm sure I enjoyed it, but afterwards I am embarrassed of the whole experience that I literally cannot talk about it.I'm not a shy person. I'm confident, I have decent self-esteem, and I love spending time with my friends and people that I'm *not* romantically attracted to… but dating is made very difficult by my embarrassment. I'm certain that these feelings are more than just nerves. But it makes me feel very pathetic, and it's a difficult thing to talk about, because I figure it's just such a stupid problem.If anybody thinks that they can clarify what is wrong with me, why I might be feeling like this, or what I could do to try and get over it a little bit, I would really appreciate it. Thankyou to anybody who reads and/or replies to this, it's much appreciated. :)
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reader, Kayl 25 +, writes (27 July 2010):
Hey there! I know exactly what yoyr going through. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and get incredibally embarrased in frknt of him, if a shop assistnt triez to make polite conversation with my i go bright red.. i hav ni idea why coz when he's not there im totally fine! I also used to avoud eating in front of him coz i was embarrased but once i got comfortable with him that soon wenf away. I thought i was the only person in the world like this, i cant even speak to my own friends in front of him coz i get embarrased, the advice i would givd you is just take a deep breath and think 'confidence' maybe one day i will gogrow out of this awful embarrasing situation, but after 3 years im nof holding out much hope.
Sorry i couldnt help further i just wanted to let you know your not alone with this problem
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