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writes: Is it possible for a 23 year old guy who has professed to be bi (has been with 7 women and 9 guys) survive in a committed monogamous relationship with a woman (which he started)? Should I be worried? Please post your comments! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you WendyG, I'm trying to get over the fear. I've had a prior experience with an ex that hid things from me and did REALLY strange things behind my back... I think I'm dealing with a past demon.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (8 December 2006):
 The term Bi is exactly that likes more than one sex! It doesnt matter on the sex, but the person. It would be the same if you were male he female vice versa or both female, if someone loves someone it doesnt matter the sex. If they are happy and want to be with you then there is no reason why it cant work out. If you both want the same thing and are happy the way you are then yes it will work, its the same as a hetrosexual relationship, you have to strive to make it what you both want and keep each other happy.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Stina, I hope it's the same for us women as it is for men. You give me hope. : )
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reader, stina  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 Hi Anon,
Like Irish said - if he is in an exclusive relationship with you, then it doesn't matter what sex he is attracted to. If for some reason you have doubts, you should really sit down and talk with him.
Personally, I'm bi and had a past like your guy. When I met my now-husband, everything else just stopped and I didn't care one bit about anyone else, regardless of if they were male or female. I wouldn't dream of being with anyone other than him now. So yes- it's possible for him to survive in a monogamous relationship! :)
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much! He is devoted and very loving, I'm just scared. He is actually very mature and solid in his career (already a paramedic and is already with a fire department and in the National Guard) and education, good family, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): Of course it can survive, dear. It matters not that he is bi-sexual. If you love this man and you both have mutual trust, respect, awe and admiration for each other, then you have a pretty darned good solid base and a good start to this relationship. Of course my more bigger concern is his age. If he's only 23 years and depending on his level of maturity and 'who' he is-it might be wise to sit back and take this relationship with this male, slow and steady. Just remember, any deep bonds and love, between 2 people-take huge responsibilities, work and huge efforts to maintain this relationship, over the long term..hats off to you both...I hope it works out Good luck and stay happy.
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