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writes:'m a 25 year-old lesbian trying to figure out why I am almost exclusively attracted to older women. I'm currently in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than me. When I was 19 I was dating men and women in their late 30s. Ever since I was a young girl and before I even knew I was gay I was always obsessed with my mom's glamorous friends. The obvious assumption is that I have "mommy issues" but the thing is that my relationship with my mother is very close, warm, and supportive. The same goes for my father. For me, my attraction to women is incredibly physical but also intellectual. I've always felt like an "old soul" and enjoyed having relationships both platonic and romantic with older people. My worry is that it's become habitual to the point where I can't even imagine myself dating someone my own age. I wonder if it's something I'll grow out of as I can't always be the younger person in the relationship forever...But in the meantime I feel out of touch with why I desire this so much and what it means about who I am as a person.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (3 March 2018):
 Maybe go to an LGBT-friendly therapist - not because there's anything wrong with it, but just to figure out the root, if there is something more than just liking what we like.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 March 2018):
 http://psychology.wikia.com/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships
A short version? We like what we like. Some like the more mature partner or... (age-wise) immature. Unless it becomes a problem in your life and relationship I don't see what the issue is?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 March 2018):
 Honestly why do you even care? I think you are over thinking everything. Some people like blonde hair, some people like black skin, you like an older woman. Really there is nothing wrong with it, and it doesn't mean that you have mother issues. It more than likely means that you are mature for your age and seek older company.
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