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writes: Ok well I've met this wonderful guy! And we've gotten really close like so close he is willing to do almost anything for me. The only problem is our ages. I'm 14 about to turn 15 in a couple months and he's just turned 20 two days ago. Now we have been keeping our realationship on the down low from not only our parents but our freinds. They're 100% cluless. Except from my bestfreind and her mom. He has told me he loves me many times and he isn't forcefull and he is very undestanding. We both know that this is love. We have been keeping this realationship secrect for about 1 year now. I would like to hear what people have to say and make sure that i am not the only one in this situation.Your advice would be greatly appreciated Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): I think you should wait until your girlfriend is 18 before you both start having sex or getting married, because she is still a minor.
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reader, miss_nice2006 +, writes (3 August 2006):
 hi i konw were u are comeing from i fancy thins guy and he is 20 nelly 21 and i am 15 he fancy me a lot but we try not let pip no that we fancy eceother really i have been m8 with him for abot 20 week now and i have fancy him for about 10 week he is really nice he call me all the time and text me wen he is not at work so i really konw were u are comeing from
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2006): I am in a relationship with an older man and we've been together for about a year now. It really can work, but the problem in your situation is that it is not legal. Believe me, I went through all of this and found out that in my state, 16 is the age of consent. Luckily, I was 16 when I met him. If you're under 16 or in some states, 18, you can not legally have sex with someone who is more than 2 years older than you. If someone finds out about your relationship and doesn't like it, they can cause your boyfriend some real problems. Just watch out for yourself and I wish you the best of luck.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (26 July 2006):
 P.s. - I take it that you have'nt actually been 'rubbing uglies' (having sex) yet, and that is what you meant by him "not being forceful"?? I DO hope so! Look after yourself.
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reader, snowbird +, writes (21 July 2006):
You sound like a very level-headed and sensible girl. The actual age gap is not a concern. I don't know any more than anyone else how much longer the relationship will last as you, at 14, still have a lot of changes to go through before you have the life experience to really get a perspective and know what you want out of life, and love. Tastes etc change as we get older. As you have been seeing one another for a year, and the fact that he has not put pressure on you shows that he has respect for you and he is not just some player trying to get it off with a naieve young girl!
His demeanour with you proves that he cares deeply for you, but please wait and keep the relationship as it is for the time being. Let people get to know him gradually, as a friend - the people you can trust, who know you well. Take your time with this one, and PLRASE take notice of Martini, and observe the legal age laws but, MOST importantly, need I say it - do use a condom, and don't end up a statistic by getting pregnant and robbing yourself of any choice in your future. You have the world at your feet, girl. Choose wisely, but most important of all - BE HAPPY!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): That's great actually. I believe that it IS possible to be connected that way, despite your younger age. A lot of people believe somehow (no matter how illogical it is to me) that age is reflective of maturity, wisdom, and intellectual wit. If you two both know what you're doing, and are doing things 'right', then I say go for it. Just remember that if you are thinking about having sex, consult with the legal age minimum first. Aside from that - awesome. 8]
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