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writes:My boyfriend of nearly two years has asked for a break in our relationship and I dont don't know or understand why. He said he loves me not to see other people just have a break and we aint over just to give him that. Im so upset at 8months pregnant its not something I need right now, this was last night and after hardly any sleep ive woke in tears. Hes a soldier and was home for the weekend we were fine least I thought so anyway then I got the text when he was on the way back to camp he won't be home till the 13th of dec and ive just just got to give him till then he said. I don't think he understands the hurt and stress hes putting me through, hes nasty when hes drinking and I know hes got all his army pisses coming up so I thought maybe it's to do with that I just dont understand where this is leaving us. Anyones thoughts please
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2013): For the sake of you and your child you need to take control here: tell him you won't be waiting for him to make up his mind. You need stability and if he can't give that to you, you need to break up for good. You should get all your friends and family around you & get a good support network going. Remember there isnt anything you go through in your life that you are not strong enough to get through. You are much stronger than you think & you need to be strong for your little baby. Try to distract yourself, turn off all thoughts about him, when you think about him, say to yourself 'stop' and think about something that makes you happy.
This man is a selfish child & he's revealed his true colours now, you don't need him in your life.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (2 December 2013):
 Honey, you should take care of yourself and the baby, that should be your priority. Yes you hurt like hell and all alone, but don't give him the satisfaction of destroying you, stop all contact and focus on yourself and healing. For him to do this to you when you are 8 months pregnant, is cruel and selfish. You deserve better. I would consider making this a permanent break as I could never trust someone that when you most need them, they walk away. Move on. You deserve better
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 December 2013):
 Well you can't really tell him, no breaks, can you?
You might have to prepare yourself for being a single mother though. Are you ready to have this baby in a month and take car of it by yourself? He said to not see other people, but my guess is YOU certainly won't be seeing other people since you are 8 months pregnant.
He gave you no reason? That is pretty lame. My guess (and ONLY a guess) is that he is feeling unprepared and scared of the prospect of being a dad. Basically he's getting cold feet.
Not sure what Army pisses is (not familiar with UK military) but stress at work can be a factor too.
What you NEED to do is focus on you and the baby. THAT is your priority right now. HE needs to go grow up.
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