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writes:Being a 33 year old single male I had the get married bug hit me hard like a baseball bat. I went through 4 relationships in 3 years. Always the same problem. I didn't pay too much attention to her issues which is what usually was the problem. So now I'm detoxing myself of dating since just after Valentines Day. I usually went for the fixer up needy women with this thought that I can improve them. Big waste of me. I'm going back to school for my RN. Being a paramedic pays all of my bills but I still want the family one day and almost doubling my income sounds like a great way to help do it. I've had fun in my 20's. Been a firefighter/paramedic, travelled, adventurer, drank, partied. Got it out of my system. Here's the question I have come to wonder after 6 months. Why was I so freaking worked up about being single and no kids at age 33? Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 August 2011):
 I have no idea why you worked yourself up. Just think of it this way: you could have rushed into a marriage, had a couple of kids and ended up divorced with child support payments...at the age of 33.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): Oh, come on! It is the 21st century! Times have changed. Marriage is not a requirement for a successful life any more. Sadly, there are still people out there who think they must get married and they end up in bad marriages, feeling miserable and eventually get a divorce and they are single again. If you really want to have a family, you are only 33 for crying out loud! You have your whole life ahead of you.
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reader, GardenLover +, writes (15 August 2011):
 It sounds like you are in massive transition with going back to school, spending time single, and changing your relationship MO (no easy task!). Psychologists have studied life stages for a very long time and this situation does describe the 30's. I'd say it's very normal and I am going through something similar as a 30 year old professional woman. I'm still in what I'm hoping is the last relationship with an addict, but I get all freaked that I'll miss out on family if I quit this one at my age (of course being female I can't do this stuff at any age). I want to change the pattern and there seems to be a huge amount of anxiety involved in changing these things and in transitional periods.
I'd say, be confident, be yourself, and, when you're not expecting it, the right woman will be right next to you.
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