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writes: I admit it i am a sad boring cow. I am 30 years and have only had 2 boyfriends. I am very shy and it takes me a while to warm up to people, i have never been interested in getting drunk in a pub or club and much prefer a good book! I work with a lot of men but most are married or just too old for me. I have been thinking about joining an on-line dating agency but not sure coz i have always thought you have to be desparate to join one of them. I would love to be in a loving relationship but not sure whether to do it or not
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (11 August 2006):
 Well I for one would not call it desperate... its where I met my man online! And we have been together 3 years now.. I had been single a short time and was hunting around on the web for something to do and saw an ad flash up for a site called Dreammates so thought what the heck and filled out the profile!I figured that meeting somebody from online could be just the same as meeting someone in the pub.. what i mean is you never know what someone is like until you have been with them for a while, doesnt matter where you meet them, if they are a bad egg they are a bad egg.. anyway you do need to be careful when meeting people online, you know meet in public places and all that and make sure someone knows where you are going, but equally I guess that could be the case of meeting someone anywhere these days.. but always put safety first.. there are alot of people out there that want to meet up with people and find a partner, and the net is an easy way to do this as you get to pick who you like the sound of without having to leave your home! Plus if you are a little shy, and find it hard to meet people this is less daunting and can be alot of fun! If they like you great, if not theres bound to be someone else just over the next page! It might not happen over night, but its a good way to get to know people, you get to chat, talk, email, make friends (So even if no romance you could find a good friend) and take things further if you want, you may find a few frogs along the way, but its far easier to strike someone off the list rather than having to have a date and then go through all the normal does he like me, and all that, or do I like him, this way you get to see what people have written about themselves, see if you have anything in common, see if you can easily hold a conversation and actually start to get to know someone before meeting them... Luck would have it in my case that my man was actually originally from where I live had moved away 2 years previous, but we had never managed to bump into each other until we saw each other on the site... had lived around the corner from one another all our lives and had never met! Anyway the rest as they say is history, we live together and im very glad that, that day i decided to fill out the online dating form.
You go for it, have fun and you could find someone that is just what your looking for!
Good luck
Take care xx
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reader, pica +, writes (11 August 2006):
But you are desperate ;)) Go on, give it a go, have some dates and get out there. Net dating is very popular now, in fact it has become an accepted route for romance. You'll potentially meet guys who like you aren't interested in pubs and clubs. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): Well, if you are thinking of joining an online dating community, I have heard only good things about eHarmony.com. My sister actually met her fiance on eHarmony, believe it or not. She is 30 and has been with this man for two years now, so it doesn't seem like just a fling. I don't think you have to be desperate to join an online dating service. There are lots of men and women who join because, like you, they are simply too shy to go out and try to meet people. There's no shame in it, either. If you want a more traditional method of meeting men, though, I'd suggest taking up some activities or classes. That way you'll have the opportunity to meet men who share your interests. You never know when the love of your life is waiting around the corner. You just have to put yourself out there and try a little. Who knows? You may end up meeting the man of your dreams who wants to snuggle up to you in bed and read a good book! Just don't be afraid to put forth a little effort to get him. I hope this helps. I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out. Take care!
~RJGirl
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