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writes:I have been friends with an older lady, she is 39 and i am 30. We met at salsa classes and ever since the moment i saw her we have been talking. Recently, in the past two weeks we have exchanged numbers and started to text each other. She is single, not married and no kids.We spent the previous weekend together going to the sea side and spending the whole night together just talking and eating.Also we went to a restaurant and for drinks afterwads and then chilled on separate sofas under blankets at her place. I have been giving her compliments and making her smile.I really like her and really want to tell her how i feel but im scared that i will ruin a good friendship and im not 100% sure if she likes me in that way.Furthermore, when i was at her place the previous weekend she dresses normally but was not that ashamed to hide that fact that her thongs were on full view, it not a man thing, but it was too obvious that i could see.Anyway im interested in her and want to let her know, shall i keep on spending time with her and let it grow naturally or should i just come out with it?Thanks for your time in reading this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey, thanks for all your responses, she came round to my place and we talked then she just come out and said that she sees me a very attractive guy, and feels comforatble around me, but just sees me as a friend. She says that the age difference would be an issue, and she say us as good friends.So i made the decision that i would keep her as a good friend and sacrefice how i felt and not say anything other than i just want to be one of her good friends.Oh well, thankyou again for your help and support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): i think u should tell her! I was/ still am in situation similar to yours but although i have developed STRONG feelings for the guy, i have never really ascertained how he feels about me! He says things to indicate he's into me then retracts it all by saying it was only hypothetical! Sometime i wonder if he's scared of gettin hurt and doesnt want to take stuff for granted! Anyway, if you really have feelings for this lady u SHOULD tell her. A lady like s to know she is appreciated and valued!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (13 April 2009):
 Well, if you enjoy spending time with her and feel you can move on and not get clingy teenager about it, stay friends.
The only time this could become an issue is if either of you get in to a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell she is coming over to my place today to see me, so this maybe all over if she says she just wants to be friends. If she says this how do i reply?
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (13 April 2009):
Yes, just tell her, even if she doesn't see you that way, you are both old enough to be adults about the situation.
I'm sure any lady would take it as a compliment if a chap 10 years her junior said he fancied her!
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