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writes:Hi thereThis may seem like a completely stupid question, but how do I get a boyfriend?!!!!! I can't believe I'm asking this! I'm 30 years old!Basically I've had 1 serious relationship which ended several years ago (not too badly) and since then I've been looking for Mr Right. Like I said I'm 30, attractive, nice figure, friendly, open minded, relaxed, good sense of humour and fun (well at least I hope I am). I've met men, dated them but it always seems to end the same - they lie to me, use me and generally take advantage of my good nature. It may just be the type of bloke I go for, but it always seems to be going well, then bang, all goes wrong. Most of my friends are in relationships and I am starting to feel that there's something wrong with me or that I'm just meant to be single. I really don't think I can take anyone else asking me why! I just want to meet someone who I can have fun with, talk to, relax with and have great sex with! I know it's asking a lot but, is there someone out there for me? Any tips? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): I am 30 and can't find anyone either. It sucks. I am single never married no kids, have a good job and I am a nice looking person. You are probably just picky and have standards like me. My problem is, I think I need to be in a better area. I'm in an area of about 250,000 people and apparantly it's not enough. I had a couple of boyfriends in my twenties and they just "were not that into me" I am kind of happier alone though than with someone that is drama because that just makes me more stressed out. I guess it's just not our time. Only bad thing is I want to have kids and I don't want to be too old when I do it. Otherwise, I guess at this point it wouldn't be a priority. Guess, the best thing comes to those who wait and I'm hoping I will find someone good.
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reader, becca78 +, writes (10 January 2009):
becca78 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice, guess I'm just a bit lacking in self confidence at the moment, I know a guy is out there for me, it just gets a bit depressing when all my friends meet people and I don't!
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reader, IDoWhatIWant  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 You meet guys everywhere. Dont be too judging though. You dont have to like every little thing about someone. :) AND YOU'RE ONLY 30!! Jesus christ! You dont have to find someone now! ^_^ take it easy ;) but that wasn't what the question was for i guess.
Guys are as i said EVERYWHERE! I mean the love of your life may be in the library all days or something. Ask your friends' husbands. They might have some honest, cute and wild friends over! Looking around is the only tip i can give you.
Good Luck! (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Well for one having a boyfriend is not that hard, finding a good one is.
First off, dont make that your goal as you will come off desperate and guys can smell that a mile off, it will put off the good ones and draw in the bad ones looking to take advantage of someone with desperate typed on their forehead.
There are all kinds of ways to meet men, even the supermarket, on-line, bookstores, community events, church, volunteering, taking a course, asking your friends and acquaintances and even relatives to introduce you.
One mistake we women often make is dating only one man at a time. Date several, that way your focus is not too much on any one of them, you can relax and realize that dating first and foremost is about fun.....then as a friendship takes fire it will turn into romance and you will be able to choose who you want that to happen with or not.
OK? Dont be so desperate. You do not, I repeat do not need a man to be happy.
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