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writes:I just joined my uni swimming pool and there's this hot guy who works as a life guard there and is super dreamy. I've tried to catch his eye lol and he always smiles at me and says Hello, we've had a bit of banter too which is nice. However I just saw his Instagram linked from the uni swimming team Instagram which he's apparently on though on a different team to me, I clicked on it and found out he's 18 and a fresher!! I didn't realise as he is about 6" and really well built, he also has a beard.I'm 25 and doing my Masters, though I do have a baby face and am small so he probably thinks I'm younger. We are both at the same uni but would it be weird of me to go for it as I imagine he'd be turned off if he found out I was older? I do get attention from guys closer to my age, even guys who've graduated and have jobs, but I find guys who are into swimming which is one of my life long passions so much more attractive and that's rare. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2019): Since he's of age I reckon you're good to go for it if you just want a bit of fun. Since you haven't spoken all that much, I'm assuming that's all you're looking for at this stage- since it doesn't seem like you know him well enough for a relationship. You could always date and see where it goes, of course, but be prepared to be let down by how things go outside of the bedroom. There's a lot of growing up that happens between 18 and 25 and it usually doesn't work out- even if your genders were reversed.
But as far as acting on a casual physical attraction goes- don't worry about being older! Most guys I know are totally cool with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2019): While its not a huge age gap, I do think that in a year or so when you have finished uni and he is only in his second year, the gap will be more noticeable in terms of where you are in your life. I would save yourself the heartbreak and maybe look for a guy whose a bit closer to your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2019): It’s not rare. Many guys like swimming. He’s just starting uni and you’re not far off finishing it.... You’re life stages are completely different. You can go for it, but you’re likely to be disappointed because most 18 year old guys aren’t into serious relationships with older women, just casual ones - so being older may be a turn on, rather than turn off, but not because he wants a “proper” relationship. It depends what you want from it.
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