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writes:Why doesn't my mom want to meet my new boyfriend?I was in a really bad relationship with my now ex boyfriend, he treated me like shit. My mom though was ok with meeting him and supported me with whatever decisions I had made, including staying out super late with him, having sex with him etc. A few months ago we broke up, and we are not speaking. We are not friends, and it did not end in a friendly way. A few weeks ago I met this guy who treats me really well, he's respectful, sweet, a true gentleman. He respects me. We stayed out all night once, and we had sex. It felt like it was better though because I could tell he actually cared for me. After not coming home that night and staying out late the night before hand too, my mom freaked out. I told my mom about him, and she says she doesn't want to meet him, because she's not ready. She was extremely mad, and said that I was behaving selfishly, was a major disappointment and acting like a slut. She told me I was throwing my life away, and partying too much. She also said that the whole world didn't revolve around me, and that I was treating her like an object. She started crying, and I asked if I could do anything to help her feel better and she said " I don't know." I asked her what was wrong and she said " I don't know." Then she sat down and had me plan out my entire week, saying that I had to be home by 10pm every night, and be in bed by 11, and up at 8 am every day. Mind you I'm not a little kid anymore, I'm 23 years old, still living with her though. I feel like I'm being controlled. I know I need to move out, and I'm looking for a better paying job so I can do that. I just don't understand why she won't meet someone who treats me well, but didn't have any issue meeting my ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2015): Time to leave the nest.When my kids were past 21 two of them wanted to bring boyfriend/girlfriend to my house to sleep over in their room.I was like hell no if you want that it is time to move out on your own.My house My rules.You live in your moms house..her rules.Time to move out..if you want to play grown up be grown up.And I hope to god you practice safe sex and are on birth control.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 June 2015):
 Unfortunately when you LIVE with your parent(s) it's their house, their rules.
My guess is her strong reaction has to do with having watched you getting hurt by your ex. Which... wasn't ALL that long ago.
You have only been with him a few weeks, I think your mother sees that as.. not all that serious yet. So don't try and hurry them meeting.
As for her slut-shaming you... ignore it. It's her lashing out at you. Maybe because she is trying to protect you and feel like she failed? Or... she is jealous?
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