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writes:Hi, there ok i have a huge problem!!!! im 22 years old and i have no sex drive almost at all ive tried toys and i dont really care for them and even porn but the same thing!!!! also i have no patience what so ever like the littlist things make me so angry {which is not good im a nanny} ive never been like this b4 until about 6 or 7 months ago!!!! i dunno why this is i go off on my husband i dont want to ever have sex and when we do most of the time im doing it just to make him stop asking me!!!! i mean i love him but yes weve had our problems over the last 3 or 4 years bigggg ones but i thought ive over come that i mean i dont look or think about other guyz i just rather play with myself sometimes then have sex!!!! my hubbyis deployed right now{just left 3 wks ago} and everytime he calls me i seem to get mad at the smallest things i get mad at my puppy my kittens and all that we dont have any children right now thank god but ive also been loosing my interest in wanting to have one ever!!!! i just keep seeing myself in the future traveling the world with him with no kids at all but then sometimes i dont even see him in my dreams at all!!!! please help me!!! do i need to go to a doctor am i crazy i mean im only 22 this shouldnt be happening to me!!!! why dont i have a sex drive like i did 2 years ago why dont i want kids anymore and why am i loosing my patience for people day by day!!!! i never cry unless im drunk then im all blah blah blah about my horrible child hood andi dont even feel sad that my bro and grandma died in 2007 i never really have ive always been like well ok there in a better place why cry!!! but then i get drunk and it all comes out!!!! and most of the time id rather be alone just doing my own damn thing!!!! i know this is probably all written weird and u might not be able to understand the point im tryin to get to but im just writting as im thinking so i really hope you do!!!! if anyone has any advice on what i should do please pleaseee help me!!!! im about to have a meltdown im going crazy in my head!!!!! please HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): I'm 21 been with my man for 4 n a half yrs we r engaged n I just can't be bothered with sex any more n I'm always moody n going crazy in my head! Wats wrong with me? He has gained a bit of weight since we met n I dnt find him as attractive anymore but I still love him I want my sex drive back
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): hey ladies, I am 20, and I have the same problem. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years (on and off) we have had our problems and a few were bad... For some reason I find that my boyfriend and I break up and we dont talk for a few weeks, and then when we get back together I am attracted to him like never before, but as soon as we start getting comfortable together again my sex drive goes BYE BYE, and I want to know why my sex drive wont just stay the same. We have amazing sex. I've tried watching porn alone and with him. It works but only sometimes. Am I just a girl who gets bored with the sex fast. Or is there something wrong with me. There are some days where my moods go from bad to worse. I could start the say in a good mood then gradually it gets worse to the point were I dont even want to be touched. He constantly asks if its him. And honestly I dont know because part of me thinks that I should move on because of this problem... But I dont want this to keep happening to in every relationship I'm in. I mean I'm young pretty, and want my sex drive back. I think I'm going crazy... Is it the relationship thats just stail and settled or is it me? I'm tired of feelings this way please someone help me...
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reader, wicked_angel25  +, writes (11 December 2009):
So i read your answer because im a guy who is 22 and my Sex drive has died right down and being a guy its really hard because all my mates kinda think im wierd cos i dont want to have sex with every girl that tries to with me. Have you ever just thought that u have no sex drive because you are exhausted because im always tired now and stressed because of work and training for sport i just come home and all i want to do is rest and im super attracted to my current girl and well she doesnt want to have sex yet but im worried when she does im not going to be in the mood.
The times when i am i get myself in the mood is when my work is going really well and i have had a break off training for a while so i think stress could be a big thing to do with it and sometimes the opposite sex can contribute to that stress and sometimes u just need to take a step back from your partner and work out whether they are a part of the problem. i hope i have given some help or at least someone on the other side of the genders opinion and maybe u guys can help me out with my problem should i hold off on sex till i really want it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): i am goin through the same problem. 22 prety n have a gr8 boyfrnd but no sex drive. i hear hormones hav sumthn 2do wit it. mayb speak to ur doc. thanks 4makn me feel like im nt the only one. human
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reader, confusedgirl22 +, writes (28 January 2009):
 Hi! I just read what ya'll said, and I have the SAME problem! I'm a 22 year old Nursing student...I'll be 23 Feb 28th and I never care to have sex. I am usually a very sexual person, and always think about looking sexy or feeling sexy, however, with my boyfriend, I am NEVER in the mood. In the beginning of our relationship I was always in the mood, and we had sex a lot. We've been together for 2 years now, so I know its not new and exciting anymore--that def. has something to do with it, but there are so many other people out there my age that can and WANT to have sex everday. I can't even get wet from him anymore. He just doesn't turn me on, and whn I express concern and try and talk to him about it, he just acts very selfish, and gets mad at ME because he doesn't turn me on anymore. Like its MY fault. What the hell is wrong with me? I watch some porn, maybe once per month and it will help, but I just usually don't care. He is so cute, but doesn't have the best body in the world...but neither did my exes...so why am I not attracted to him sexually? He's not too big or too small, so PLEASE HELP! Maybe I'm a lesbian?!!?
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reader, tialauna +, writes (20 January 2009):
 OMG! I'm not 22 but, if there are other woman/men maybe, out there that have the same thing happening to them, it's not abnormal. Maybe woman/men lose there sex drive at a certain age.! Keep it real!?tialauna
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i know all my friends are crazy about it to!!! lol i mean i dunno it could be because im loosing my attraction a little bit to him!!! i mean he has gained a little weight and now that we lived together{he has been deployed 4 times in 3 1/2 years} ive seen like what hes really like and i mean i love him but i dunno sometimes he kinda acts more like a girl then i do like when we fight hes like lets talk about it and wont let me sleep until we do and then hes all like i feel like im loosing you and i dont like it but then the next day hes all like i dont feel anything i love you u love me and everythings ok im like wtf im suspose to be that way what happen to the manly man i married lol i dunno if you have that same problem or not!!! and yes i have the same problem he is biggg to andit does hurt unless im like super wet and then i get so wet i dont feel nothing sometimes other times i feel everything but it does hurt more then he feels good. and ive tired to use lube but i dont like that warming stuff it kinda burns more then feels good and i just kinda dont like lube period maybe i havent found the right one or what i dunno but do u have that problem to? i mean i love him very very much but its just not the same as when we were in high school.. i mean i use to love sex i use to want it all the time and i was the sweetest girl then to now i have like a very very short fuse he keeps saying ohh your pregnant i know it and im like no im not trust me id be able to tell if i was i know my body enough!!! and i took a test to just prove him wrong and yea i did lol!!! i wishi knew why the older i get the older i feel and the lost of interest i have in things i had b4 it sounds crazy i know im only 22 but hey this is how i feel!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): Hey there, I was surfing the web just now on why I have this problem too, I am 22 also, will be 23 on march 1st. I am in a relationship too and I cant find a reason why I am completely and totally uninterested in sex. I am young and pretty and outgoing and capable of having an orgasm and all so I dont understand why I am this way. My fiance is at his wits end with my sexual uninterest in him but I dont know what to do. One reason I think I may be this way is because my partner has a really big 'package' if you know what I mean and everytime we have sex it hurts more than it ever feels good and I think maybe I have lost the interest in haveing sex b/c subconciously I think that it has to hurt b4 it ever feels good (if it ever does)! also maybe I think that I'm losing interest in my partner physically b/c he is starting to gain weight and not look sexy at all... do you have that problem with yours?? but I am also really moody too. god knows I could use a friend with the same problems as me, all my friends are like sex crazy college girls (I wish I was)lol my name is ashley
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