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writes:I'm 20 years old, I'm a virgin and I'm horny ALL THE TIME.This only became recent, I have been masturbating for a few years now, maybe 2-3 times a week, sometimes I'd go weeks without doing anything.But at the beginning of December, I was seeing a guy and things got rather sexually heated, he ended up rubbing and fingering me (and that was the first time someone else had touched me other than me doing it to myself) he was kissing the right spots and just touching me the right way (again, this is the first time I've had a sexual encounter like this) and I just got turned on in a way that I didn't know I could. We saw each other again and things were sexual between us because of the built up tension, unfortunately, things didn't go so well cause I found out he was just in it for the sex and when he found out I was a virgin he distanced himself from me.But, I'm not worried about that, it's just that ever since then, I have been horny every single day, maybe about 3-5 times a day, I masturbate wayyy more than I did previously. It's gone from 2-3 times a week to 2-3 times a day, at night I'm always hot and bothered, and I'm sort of yearning for that sexual touch again, cause now I finally know what it feels like.But i'm not looking to lose my virginity to a random guy that means nothing to me.But I'm finding it sooo difficult to contain myself now, I'm sexually tensed up all the time (for the past month now).Masturbating does help with the relief but most times it doesn't do anything but make the situation worse as I'm lying there wanting to have sex, and hornier than I was before.Is this normal?I'm thinking because I'm still a virgin at 20, the more hornier I am now as I still haven't released that sexual side of me to anyone, I've held onto it for a while and I'm not sure what to do or if I'm able to stop because sex is constantly on my mind.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (1 January 2013):
It's completely normal. When I was around that age I was going through the same thing. Although I decided that I didn't cherish my virginity so I lost it to someone who I didn't care a bit about. It would have been nice to lose it in a more romantic way but I've never regretted it.
You should be aware that it may not be all its cracked up to be until you and the guy have a little more experience.
Your sentiment is good though, as having sex when you care about the person can be a great experience, so if that's important than just continue taking care of yourself until you find the right guy.
They don't call it "raging hormones" for nothing.
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reader, Tortured Soul +, writes (1 January 2013):
Its psychological. Keep the thoughts that turn you on away. As its nice to know there is a respectful girl like you that still holds herself for the right person that will come along to appreciate that.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (1 January 2013):
Oh I know how you feel - there are phases when I'm very very horny and it's really hard for me to think about anything else. Being a virgin makes it maybe worse for you, because there's a huge curiosity and longing in you that wants to be released for the first time.
You're right by waiting for the right moment to have your first time. Until then, all I can recommend is finding some balance between giving in to your impulses (masturbating and thinking about sex) and distraction. That way you can make it through this horny time alone until you find the right one :)
To me, sports help a lot. Jogging, Body Toning, things that are intense and make me sweaty and tired. I don't say this because I think it's not normal to be very horny. It's just, I know it can be annoying sometimes if you know that you don't have a partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2013): stop masturbating at all, wait 6 weeks. it helped me
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