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writes: dear cupidi am 20 i met this guy when i was 14.he was my teacher.he only worked in my school for one year so i have not seen him since.He must be around 30 now.Trouble is i have fallen in love with him.it sounds stupid obviously nothing ever happened between us.i have not seen him in 5 years but i think about him every day.i really really love him there has never been anybody else.please help all my friends think i am crazy
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reader, Toria +, writes (4 October 2006):
 Your strong feelings are the memory of the crush you use to have and because you haven't seen him in such a long time you are unable to let go of this as you are holding onto the feelings you once felt, where as if you was to see him now you would probably realise this feelings aren't what you continue to think they are.
I would put them down to a school girl crush and start moving on with your life, you may never see this guy again and even if you did the fantasy you have held all this time will but crushed as you realise he isn't what you've allowed your head to portray him as.
Good luck :o)
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reader, camille  +, writes (3 October 2006):
 You may have strong feelings for him but I suspect they are still attached to the crush you had at 14. It's a romantic notion to harbour these feelings for so long and to maintain your teenage love. I can't see how this can be anything other than your mind thinking about "what if". You haven't seen him for 5 years and nothing ever happened. You don't know him as a person, but as a teacher, so you haven't gotten to know the real man. You may meet him and your illusion be totally shattered. If you knew where he was etc, seeing him may be the only way to settle it one way or another, but I feel that is really drastic. Please don't take offence, but I can understand why your friends can't take it seriously, you are 20 years old and wasting precious time on someone you're not entirely sure 'exists', because I think you're in love with the dream you have and not the reality, as that's someone you don't know. I think you need to think about meeting people who are not a fantasy figure in your mind, as this is not a very realistic situation.
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