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writes: Hi everyone!so here is the problem.my boyfriends and i relationship has been awfull!i am pregnant with his baby.our relationship was great untill i found i was pregnant.he tries to be happy with it but he is just scared!i am 17 and he is 18.i know deep down he is kinda excitedbut the thing is everything has been weird!idk if its cause christmas is coming up or what!but we did take a break we didnt see each other for a few days and the only thing we did we txt eachother.the other night i had to go to the ER cause i was having really bad pain.so i texted him and told him and he came to the ER as soon as he got off work.but we was still on break so it was kida awkard.but the thing is everytime things with us are going great! people try to come in between everything and mess it up.he doesnt want anyone to know i am pregnant cause he says its no ones bussiness really.but for the past week all we have done is fight!i have tried to keep myself distant but it doesn't work at all!he has a past of cheating when he was like in 7th or 8th grade and he said it wasnt something he was proud of it ruined his life.so as these past weeks has been crazy! with some of his friends that are girls trying to mess everything up! last night he stayed the night with me and it was great! it was just like old time.there for awhile we wasnt saying i love you.he told me if i wanted him to he would stay the night with me tonight. and he asked me if i wanted to stay at his house with him for christmas.how can i stop thinking that he will cheat on me or that he isn't playing games with me. and how can i stop thinking about him having so many friends that are girls! he told me before we got together that he has alot of friends that are girls.he texts them but doesnt hangout with them.with evevrything being kinda weird for the past few days and then things start going great does that mean he was playing games with me or cheating on me. or is the weirdness cause of christmas coming up?any help,advice would be greatly apreciated:)
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (18 December 2010):
 For goodness sake! (re first response): You're 16 or 17, he's 18 and you are going to have a baby! THAT would freak anybody out (particularly you) at your ages. You are both much too young to be going through all this.
If you have the baby and decide not to give it up for adoption, or terminate your pregnancy, you are going to be responsible for raising the child for the next 20 years. How will you finish your schooling, get a job and give your baby the emotional and physical support he or she will need?Where will YOU find the strength to take on your responsibilities and not be able (or at least, strictly curtailed) from going out with your girl pals, buying clothes just because you like them, taking fun trips, not having much money, and on and on.
How do your parents feel about all this? Have you talked with them?
Your boyfriend is also responsible for helping raise your baby, as the father, and paying child support - if he has a job and can make the payments for the years to come. No wonder he's acting weird!
I'm sorry I don't know what else to tell you. Except that you really do need to consider what your options are. Do you have a school guidance counsellor or someone else in addition to your parents, with whom you can talk and get good advice on how to proceed?
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reader, Lemony Snicket  +, writes (18 December 2010):
 u kno men- anything freaks them out, u wont know for shure if he'll cheat, but it seems like he's also going trough a rough patch o anything he sais thats angry than just agree wih him. you need to be the stronger and more mature person in the relationship.
those people that are gettin 'in the way' well they just want attention, thats mabye why your boyfriend doesn't want to make it public, because he knowspeople wil try and get in the way_be shure to who your friends are
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