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writes:ok so i'm 17 years old. i live with my stepdad and stepsister. when my mom died 3 years ago i had to move back in with them. my stepdad never lets me do anything. go see friends, hang out, NOTHING. It's been this way since i moved back in. tonight i asked to go over to a friends house and he gave me an hour and a half. i'm 17 years old and get a curfew of a 9 year old. am i over reacting or do i have a right to be upset? i had basketball games all week and could not be home obviously and wen i asked to go over to my friends tonight he flips out complaining that i hadn't been home all week. well i couldnt help it if i have to be at a school function all week! my curfew on the weekdays/weekends if i'm even allowed to do anything is usually 7-9. depending on his mood, but he usually stalls around the house to give me an answer so by the time i do get one i only have an hour or 2 to do ne thing! Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 January 2011):
 living under your* goodness it's getting late for me, my grammar is going out the window!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 January 2011):
You do realize that he's very overprotective of you because your mother passed 3 years ago? Your the only piece of your mother he has left.
With that being said, I understand where you're coming from. At 17, I complained about my 9 o' clock curfew during the week and 12 on the weekends. Given I had more leeway than you, but I still tried to bend the rules.
You could try to do extra chores around the office, load the dishwasher, laundry, feed the pets daily, maybe vacuum. Then once you've displayed your best little girl behavior, you can approach your stepfather about extending your curfew on the weekends. During the week he probably won't budge on that street lights come on curfew, because your studies are more important than galavanting around at all hours of the night. Still you could ask for a 2-3 hour extension on Fridays and Saturdays.
Curfews suck, but as long as you are living on your stepfather's roof it's his rules. If you don't like it now, then I suggest you start saving your allowance, perhaps obtain a part time job at 18 so you can work on moving out.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (30 January 2011):
 So, long as you have never done anything to violate his trust, I think that is is time for you to talk to your father about this. Let him know how you feel.
Good luck!
Jeff
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