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writes:I'll start with some background information. I'm a 17 year old from NY. I will be 17 in January. My parents, as well as many other people have told me that I am very mature for my age. I'm pretty set in my ways, I'm happy with who I am. However, I do understand that I still have growing to do before I can say I'm an adult. On the dating scene, I can't date anyone under 18. I feel like they're too young maturity wise for me... So basically, I don't date my age group. I have a job at a restaurant, and I can freely talk with everyone there. my problem is this; Over the summer I began to question my feelings for my co worker. Now, that "questioning" has grown into a huge crush on this guy.("John")Problem? He's 22/23ish. My mom knows I like him, and doesn't really care at all. She knows I'm picky with guys, so she understands that I must see something really good in this guy.John's usually nice to me, he talks with me, and flirts. That doesn't really help me ignore how I feel about him, all it does is make me like him even more.Recently, my co workers were joking around, and my co worker "Ian" and i were talking about something, and just as John walked by, Ian said "Yeah I think John's hot, too!". So I shrugged it off, and turned away. However, I was blushing bright red. Ever since then John has been very nice to me, and always flirts. Just a few days ago, he told me I was his favorite co worker. He's always kind of near me at any point in time, he looks me directly in the eyes when he's talking to me. He has a nickname for me, and he's been talking about relationships a lot when I'm around. He's said things like "see, I'm a gentleman, 'Jen'(me)" he makes up reasons to talk to me, and he's always smiling at me. His best friend there has been treating me nicely too, like doing me favors and talking to me. I've noticed that recently, "Drew"(his best friend) makes fun of him a lot when he's talking to me, and John gets defensive. Both of then seem to talk a lot, and I see them looking at me while they're talking sometimes.But a lot of people I work with have liked him. I do know that people change their minds, but I've heard from a few people that he doesn't date his co workers. When My friend liked him, and he found out, he sort of avoided her. He's doing the opposite with me, in fact he's acting very nice. I think he's graduating soon, so I'm not sure if it's even worth it. I REALLY like him though. I don't want to, but it just gets worse if I fight it.I really don't know what to do next. I don't know if this is right or not, and I don't know if it sounds like he likes me. PLEASE help me
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reader, lil'shade +, writes (29 November 2008):
It sounds like to me he likes you a lot but is afraid to tell you because he doesn't know what your going to say or do. Why don't you ask one of your friends to ask him does he like anyone he works with maybe he'll say your name. If he tells your friend he doesn't like anyone then just forget about him if not you got a new man :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): You could just stay friendly and see whether he tries to get any closer, whether once he's graduated he leaves the job and then goes out with you, or you could try and speak to him and see whether he sees you as a friend or would like something more.It could go either way, but you may feel relieved even if you don't get what you want (him).
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