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writes:what advice would you give teenager thats 16 and wants a baby so badly but doesnt want to disappoint her faher. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): Wait until you are older and in a stable relationship. Why are you in such a hurry. It is so hard bringing up kids, and they can be such ungrateful things. See the world, travel. Dont get tied down with a family too soon, you will live to regret it. Be free and meet the man of your dreams and then have kids, you wont regret it.
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reader, sweetcaramel  +, writes (20 April 2008):
 Babies are so cute, cuddly, they are angels from God. The only thing is, they are expensive to raise, they take up a lot of your time, they require all your attention, love and care. There is no time for friends. Babies daddy will be busy also,(with his friends), with other girls, why?? because they can go to the movies, to the mall, to the party, and you can't because you got a baby to take care of, and nobody wants to babysit, and they don't have to, it's your child, you stay home with it. Babies daddy won't have the time to give to the child, sometimes (most of the time NOBODY has the time to care for your child, because they have things they have to do. So you have to consider all that. Look at the whole picture. If you have friends they will have their lives to live, you know, hanging out at the mall, parties, dates, trips, but you, you have to stay at home with your "little angel" like a good mother should, changing diapers, tending to them when it's sick, feeding it, burping it, changing it, working to take care of it, trying to find a babysitter for it, and babies daddy will be out at the mall, the parties, dates, trips, busy doing his thing. Last but not least, Who wants to bring a baby into the world, at 16, without having a stable job, a bank account, transportation (so your baby can have the things it needs)and a place to call their own. Live your life. Have fun, you can still have babies, Later On, it would also be GREAT to have a man, a responsible, working, caring, and mature man at your side helping with the baby, and running the household. You can have a baby later, look at all the things you can do now, Live now, baby later.
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reader, snwbrdr93 +, writes (20 April 2008):
Fist off, why would you want a baby at 16? I too dream of one day having children, but I don't want that to happen until I have a stable house, job, and husband. Wait until you are atleast 18 and maybe then you will look back and think what was I thinking wanting a baby at 16. Once you have a baby, you cannot take it back, adn think of how people will judge you for being 16 and pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): You know, I'm not sure disappointment is the word. He'd probably be more concerned about you and the baby, more than anything! The reason he wouldn't want you to have a baby at 16 is totally in your best interests. You're only at the beginning of your life, why jump into something that you might later regret? Once you have this baby, you've got a child for the rest of your life. Yes, they're absolutely gorgeous little things, I agree! But what about when you're 20, in 4 years time, and wanting to go out to see this lovely guy you met through work. Going to dump your child on your mum? Okay... Then the next week, he asks you out. He's gorgeous, you can't say no! So again, your child stays with your mum again. After a while, this will be tiring for your poor parents.
And that is just the beginning! This gorgeous guy. Is he really wanting to be tied down that early in life with a child that isn't even his? Presuming you have a boyfriend with who you're wanting the baby with at this moment in time, is he going to be willing to help you with the baby? What about the sleepless nights of bottle feeding and nappy changing, you're desperate to sleep but he/she just won't stop crying. What about losing your figure so young in life? What about your studies? Finding a job to support your baby will be hard. Without proper qualifications from college and uni, what does it leave you? Not a lot. Maybe a supermarket or something. But this just isn't enough money, and you need to spend time with your child!
Having a child at 16 is just such a big commitment, and when you have the rest of your life, why jump into things so early? I believe you should wait for the right man, the man that will support you through everything. Hold your hand, take his turn in getting up at ridiculous hours in the morning. Go through a beautiful pregnancy together, not alone! Your whole life is ahead of you. Wait, just a couple of years. The difference between a happy life with a good job, gorgeous partner and a child together and a rather sad life with a rubbishy job, no partner and a child not knowing their father is huge. It's an important difference and an important decision.
Please, for the good of your eduaction, your health, your happiness and your family, wait just a little while longer. There are so many more benefits in waiting. You wouldn't want to end up regretting your decision in the future. Good luck. If you ever need to talk, message me. Again, good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): I would say without a doubt- wait please dont jump into anything- its not even a case of disappointing your father its a case of seriously bad timing. You have your whole life ahead of you and you are only young once so for goodness sakes enjoy it while it lasts there is plenty of time for babies later but by getting pregnant now you jeopardise your future and your babies as you are honestly not ready for it- no girl is at 16- its fine to feel maternal but chill and wait for the right time and right man x
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