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writes:hi.I am 16 years old gir,and I am going out with 24 old boy.I don't think that the year difference make our relationship immposible,there are another reasons.First reason that makes us separated for a time is that he is always on move.Today is in my city,tomorow in the capital,next day in another city.also he is very rich and a lot of girls are interested about him.He is very good looking,have mercedes and r6yamaha. Thats why he looks me from a bit high.When he is here we are together but not all day.When I signal him,he calls me.But rarery he calls me first.When we was first time together we kissed.But now when we are together,only kiss when we separate but only a small kiss on our lips.What should I do make him love me and want me,care about me,spend much more time with me.But I don't want to have sex with him cause I think that he don't love me enogh for do that with him.I am waiting your answers. Reply to this Question
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reader, Olivia Lidi  +, writes (14 October 2020):
Hello there, To answer to your question I want to be very clear that legally in the UK it is okay to be with anyone older as long as you are 16, unless they are in a position of power. But that does not mean it is advised generally I am guessing. Also every situation is different. So legally, this relationship is fine! However, your concern is about the relationship itself and it makes a lot of sense. This is why: you are about to go into a new stage of your life while he is about to enter a different part of his life. Also taking out the age thing which would already 'seem' like a big deal (as it would make you feel like it is affecting the relationship) you have to consider that he does move around a lot and you don't. Your plans for the future are very different from each other and you mentioned the way the relationship is. From the way you describe the way it is I don't exactly understand what his intentions are and if you even know him well as you should at least know what sort of person he is; whether he wants to have sex with you to prove your relationship with him or not.I want to make it clear that if a guy is not into you and is making it pretty obvious you need to let them go and just move on. That can be hard to do, I get it trust me, but you need to show you deserve better. Talk to him about you both and what he wants, just sex/ cute relationship for a month/ marriage? or a long term relationship. Also if he is travelling and leaving you for a while or a bit then it is important to note that you and him might have to pursue a long distance relationship if you both decide to do so.Do you actually love him for him? Does he like you, the real you? I can relate to this situation contextually but the man was very genuine and extremely perfect even when he was not at his best. He was morally good and fair too so I knew that he would wait for me until I was 18, when it was more suitable for both of us to be in a relationship without our daily lives clashing in. Personally, my advice is to let it go if he is not being that responsive and to move on.Hope it helped, -Female, UK
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): I was in your position, 12 years ago. i met my fiance when i was 16 and he just turned 23......we are still together and have been in love ever since....and are getting married next year.
but if you would like my opinion, it is very hard to go out with someone with such an age difference...trust me, i was there, i went through it....when i was your age i never realized it, but when you are in your early 20's and he is in his late 20's you both want different things. its funny but he is exactly what you desribe, he had a corvette, very good looking, lots of friends etc. i am happy that me and him worked it all out, i have loved him since i met him but there are so many things that you have to do....like travel and have fun with your friends and grow up, that will always cause strain in your relationship.....i was fortunate to be able to do it because i was strong and made a choice to travel europe, australia...etc. but he was always there to fight with me about why i shouldn't. i knew that i had to and i am happy that i lived my life, while being in a serious relationship since highschool.
i am going to marry him, and i love him with all my heart, but if i had to do it again, i would just be a teenager and meet somebody my own age and just be able to have fun without anybody that is 10 years older questioning me.
i was one of the lucky ones b/c we worked so hard to keep it together, now its easy, but in our young years, life shoudldn't be that hard.
have fun, enjoy life....u will understand what i mean in 10 years, either way....i promise u you will remember this email =)
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (26 October 2007):
 hi.
I wonder if you do love him or you are just court up like the other girls in the fact that he is rich and has a great car,i really do not think this relationship will work, i mean no disrespect to you, maybe because of his wealth he has already made a choice who his wife is going to be, and is wanting to play around a while until he is married.
people of a wealthy background always marry other people who have wealth mainly because they are too tight to support any one else, sorry babe,you should set your sights a bit lower, and give your love to some one who love you back, dont let him use you.
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reader, im desperate for a baby +, writes (26 October 2007):
 listen, im with a 34 year old man and im only 17 just look at it this way you gotta talk to him about it coz at the end of the day if he doesnt love you or care for you or anything then he is giving you false hope which is unacceptable in many ways, i know lots of people who are with older men and they have all been together for a long time as with me and my bf
good luck to you xx
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (26 October 2007):
if you dont feel right about the relationship
then you shouldnt be in it.
sounds like you would be better off without him
best of luck
x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): I think that he likes you but maybe not in the way you would want him to like you! I think he might just be using you, and im not trying to be harsh, but if he is that good looking and rich, believe me you not the only girl on his agenda, he probley has many others! just be careful and dont have sex with him!
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