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writes:i am 16, and ever since i was 14 i have been attracted to my dads best friend. He is 37 years old right now, and i have never persued him, he doesnt know i have feelings for him. sometimes i wish he did so i can be with him. we talk and have conversations and he is the only man who treats me like an adult and he makes me want to be a better person and work hard in school and do somethign with my life. He is a very shy person and ive never ever seen him with a girl and ive been around him since i was born. my dad knows how i feel and he says wait till im 18 and then see what happens, and if he says its okay maybe it is... i just wanted anyones opinion on if it could ever work out or anyone elses experiences.
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reader, Annonymos +, writes (20 January 2009):
I can relate to this I am 17 years old and I liked my dads best friend since I was 15.....he is 52 now You've got guts I could never tell my dad
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reader, brit14 +, writes (26 June 2008):
i don't think its wrong... i like a guy that just started working at this place i hang out an he is really cool. although he is alot older than me i don't think it wrong at all... so don't feel bad about liking him.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (12 June 2008):
I think that its great to be in love and to have someone who inspires you to be a better person. I also think its great that you can talk to your dad about your feelings. You also seem to know that you are a bit young to have a relationship under these circumstances, and that your dad's advice that you should wait till you are 18 is wise.
Until you are a bit older, just enjoy having someone in your life who you find inspiring, and use the inspiration and feelings you have to become exactly the person you want to become in your life. Relationships don't always form or become what we want them to be, but love and inspiration are priceless, use them while they are in your life.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): Its not about the age difference.
Its more the fact that you are underage (well in Australia you aren't but it's still frowned upon) and he would have to be a kind of monster to take advantage of what is most likely hormonal changes due to puberty.
You are gonna want to be having sex with people most likely to get you up the duff (nature, your body wants you to procreate) and a grown man is more likely to seal the deal than a teenager, so your real emotions and your hormonal ones are mixing it up like a kegger and the result is sexual desire for this friend of the family.
Distance yourself until your body stops telling you to procreate (usually between the ages of 17-25) and if you still feel the same way, then I see no harm in persuing this because better people then you have had fulfulling relationship with a larger age gap.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): Hello. Don't worry about the age difference. Most people have this weird hangup over arbitrary numbers. Your dad is right, however. You need to wait until you're 18. If what you say is correct, he'll probably still be available. Just continue being friends until then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): This is called infatuation. This feeling and love will last only for a short time. What your father said is absolutely right. I am sure, if you don't see him for more than one year, this love will vanish.
Always try to have bf from your age group. Poor guy, leave him alone. Do not tempt him to do bad things with you. There was an incident in my place where a 15 year old girl eloped with a 40 year old man. After one year she came back home saying he is too old for her. Fortunately she did not become pregnant. Now the man is in prison.
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 Well when you're 18 he's gunna be nearly 40. To me that age gap is too big. Try and get out there and find a guy that's like him but more your age.
You should think about the future, is this the kinda guy you'd want to marry and have children with, I think he's too old for you, however good looking he is!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): if i may ask u do luv him as your dads friend or a luver? if for relationship as man and woman i think u have to b vry careful because you are too young to involve in those relationship.
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