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writes:Heyy :)xWhat it is, I'm 15 and I feel I'm ready to have sex .. but I'm really quite scared I dunno what to do :(I really like the boy I'm with and I feel I wanna lose it. A lot of boys have asked me for sex before but I didn't feel ready, I am now but I'm scared it's gonna be painful?Any tips on how to stop it being to sore?? I've done stuff but no sex. Please Help :)If you'r gonna say I'm too young don't give me advice please coz I know I'm ready. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): 15 is a little young to start having sex. But if you want to try it, go ahead. Yes it hurt a bit for your first time and you may bleed also. But after a while, it won't hurt anymore.
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reader, zahiri34  +, writes (8 December 2008):
sex is one of a the fundamental feeling that is hard to define but that people desire to experience.
but doning it in the wrong why will hurt you so bad!
i' am sure that you are a beautifull person and you have so much love inside of you and you want to feel it with someone that you love! it is great i agrue, but remember a lot of people or " boys" they may think different about the way you think!
just be carefull , be close to someone that you trust, and open your heart to your mom and dad, and do something positive, because sooner or later turst me you will have a lot of sex just be patient, your almost there!
think twice before doing something wrong becasue it will take to the wrong side and you will suffer.
a true love will never end think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey People Thanks for all the good advicee :)
we have talked alot about it and he said i will wait forever hahaha
i just feel im ready
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): heyy! :)
right. im 14.
and i do no how you feel lol.
it seems this guy your with is pretty genuine. could he be nervous too? and who brought this idea into your head?
well, whatever, if you like the boy, and you think it's right, go for it!
just make sure it's what you want hun, and if you do end up in the sack, be in charge. don't let him push you around.
if you change your mind though, "stuff" is always an option ;)
lots of love chickade xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): Dear Poster
Herewith an answer I gave to a previous poster earlier tonight, I do hope it can be of assistance to you.
Enjoy the hugging, kissing and cuddling; leave the sex for later; you will both know when the time is right; do not rush into sex; specially not a first time; for a first time, you will need LOTS of time;lots of planning and preparation; you need to discuss this and avoid having unprotected sex, oh and take care of things such as birht controll;
I SUGGEST:
Patience, patience, patience; be comfortable with each other; relax, enjoy the relationship;
DON'T just focus on wanting to have sex!
A thin membrane, the hymen guards the entrance of the vagina,(it allows the escape of mentstrual fluid); the thickness and stifness varies from woman to woman; often it is ruptured by activities such as gymnastics, horseriding, cycling or even the use of tampons.
I do suggest you take it easy, have a lubricant handy. Discuss this with your boyfriend,have him prepared not to be overkeen and in a hurry.. no rush, the secret is to "go Slow"....if it hurts stop and try again...
I want to urge you to ensure that when you do decide to do this, make it special;
The first time is something you will always remember; make sure it is special and you are doing it with love as the driving force and not lust or curiousity.
It will help if you the right setting and complete privacy, with no fear of interruptions.
Allow yourselves plenty of time so that your lovemaking can proceed unhurried.With the first time this is very important, as there is a lot of nervousness; make sure your partner is not in a hurry either.
Make sure you a reliable form of contraception. Bear in mind that AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases can be cought or spread the first time intercourse takes place. I suggest the man should wear a condom.
Your partner must know you are a virgin and be very gentle.
He should make sure you are aroused, by caressing, stimulating you before penetration.
Have a lubricant available if needed.
Choose a man on top position; penetration should be gentle and he should not thrust to deep at first.
Try to RELAX!
Best wishes and lots of smiles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): just make sure you ready because you cant take it back and you will always remember your first
and trust me your first will not be the best it will get better so honestly if you can wait wait but if you cant be safe
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reader, n00dl35  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 hey, are you 100% positive you're ready? because when you do it you can't be scared.. you just have to relax. it's going to hurt no matter what, although it doesn't hurt for some people. but for me it hurt a lot. and i was 14. i'm 15 now. but you can't be scared of the pain, you just have to deal with it. make your boyfriend go very slow in. and make sure he uses a condom! once you've gotten through your hymen breaking it wont hurt as much. good luck and be safe. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): lol ok i wont say your too young, and some of my friends lost their virgnity at a much younger age, anyway if you say you feel ready then theres no point telling you otherwise...
depending on what kind of 'stuff' you've done before, it may not even hurt as much, plus everyone is different, for some people it hurts for others it doesnt.
have you and your boyfriend talked about this? if he really cares about you he'll be gentle and take it slowly. make sure that you're totally relaxed, it wil make things a lot easier and less painful - so ive heard (im still a virgin myself).
hope this helps you a little, feel free to message me if you want.
good luck xx
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