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writes:hi im 14 and pregnanti dont know what to do, my mom dont know and my dad is in the hospital because he has cancer and he dont know too i dont wanna up set them because my sister did last year because she got pregnant at 17 year old. im scared so im thinking about not having it but my sister knows i am pregnant and also my boyfriend knows they say that i should have it but they dont understand how hard it is. im scared what people in my school are going to say they know my dad is in the hospital with cancer my teachers are going to be up set. i dont want my mom to be up set at me and also my bf dont want to tell his mom and dad because he is scared of what they going to do i dont want to mess up my life but i dont know what to do.please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): honey listen, i no how you feel. at 12 i was pregnant. it was the hardest thing ever! i didnt tell my mum. i thought she would be angry. when she found out she was stunned but was NOT angry. talk to your sister and see hoe she feels. all the luck in the world x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): oh honey, I can't even imagine what you're going through. I'm a little older than you but there's a girl at our school who's 12 and pregnant. She didn't tell her mum because she was so scared like you, but you can't hide a baby for long. I know it's painful to think about but you can't go through with the birth. Babies are for when you have a stable job and partner, otherwise it's just not fair on the kid. I live in europe, where you can get an abortion without your parents knowing, so if you're allowed to do that in america, do it! But please talk to somebody about it, you can't do this on your own. Good luck and God bless. My heart goes out to you and I will pray for you. Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): You need to go to plan parenthood or somewhere like that, I don't think there are many people on here who will know what to do.
You need to tell someone who can help you, do you agree with abortion??
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reader, noodle  +, writes (3 June 2010):
You should definatly talk to ur mum, mums are there for you know matter what! She may be angry at first but if u explain to her how scared, confused and upset you are by the situation she will calm down. I'm not going too lie I love my children I had my first at 19 but I do wish I'd had mine later in life I have missed out on so much that I want to do I feel trapped and alone most of the time. Its the hartdest job in the world I'm sure your sister can tell you that. But if u do want to go ahead you and your family and ur boyfriend and his family maybe should sit down together and try to find ways that they can support you both if that's what you want but it is very very hard and u don't know how hard its going to be until its to late! But my children are my world and wouldn't change them for anything. Be brave and tell ur mum u will have trouble doing this alone and maybe if u do keep the baby ur mum can break the news to ur dad the best way she can. Hope this helps hun, I'm here to talk if u need me let us know how it goes x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): You are 14 years old. This is no time to have a child. I understand that you must be feeling scared and it is a terrible time for your family but you have to be brave about it.
Speak with your mother, even if you think she will be upset. Or if that is very hard, speak to your school councilor. Anyone who will support you and help you. At age 14, you have your entire life in front of you. You should have children when you have a job, you are settled and you have it in you to take responsibilities.
Currently, you should be out looking cute, going to the prom, flirting with college boys.. not sitting home changing diapers & skipping school forever because of one mistake.
Take control of the situation, because no one else will. Go to planned parenthood and see how they can help.
Best of luck!
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