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writes:Guys, I've never really had a boyfriend before but I really like this guy and everyone is telling me to just flirt with him but how do you flirt? Could you give me tips on stuff I could use because honestly I haven't got anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): mysterious eyes are always a killer! make him think theres more to you..he`ll be dying to know more.x
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reader, Miss. Courtney  +, writes (21 November 2009):
Flirting is difficult at ur age, but there are still a few tricks that u can start with that work for any age:
1- the eyes tell it all.. glance his way and when u make eye contact, let it linger but only for like 2 seconds, throw in half a smile and turn away and continue doing whatever it was u were doing
2- knowing if he is into u will help u feel more comfortable so when u and ur friends have plans to hang out on night, whenever ur talking to him, casually mention it (but not in the beginning of the conversation) and suggest for him to come if he doesnt have anything to do for ex: "yea i'm having a bonfire at my house tomorrow night so we (u and ur friends) are all just gonna hang out over there... hey- if u arent doing anything u should come) say it like its no big deal so u dont feel stupid if he says no..
3- playful joking is a definate gimme.. its a way to flirt without being aggressive or putting urself out there in an awkward way.. everybody loves a sense a humor.. For instance, this guy I worked with was telling me about how some girl was going out of her way to show that she was into him- showing up at his friends house, somehow got his number and was texting him etc.. I responded "Oh Jarad, how can she resist, u are just like the answer to every girls dreams- ur the modern day elvis presley, like do u honestly blame her for not being able to resist ur awesomeness.. I mean theres been times when ive stood outside ur window just so I could watch u sleep" We cracked up over that and it became 'our thing' that I was madly in love and destined to make him love me and he would joke about making me his housewife slave..
I love to joke with people during a serious situations to make them feel better- well after ive listened to them and gave some helpful advice bc it lightens the mood and lifts
their spirits..
4- Find something in common with them- guys looove a cute girly looking chick that knows her sports! I bought $10 tickets to local basketball game and said my person bailed and didnt know any1 else who liked bball.. I was out 10 bucks but it worked..
5- guys also love being the hero.. ask him to help u with something to get his attention.. if he can drive, tell him ur ride never showed or u got left behind and ask him if theres any way he could give u a ride- if he says yes then come at him with something 'I am forever in ur depths- for real, ima name my first kid after u' lol its that humopr thing again.. if u sit beside him in class, ask him if u can borrow a pencil and dont give it back, let it be a reason to have to 'innocently' approach him later..
6-Be confident but humble. If u dont have confidence, take car of urself- keeping ur hair done, nails painted, cute clothes all make u feel better about urself and it plays on ur confidence. Guys like and respect a girl with a big heart too so dont come across as arrogant.
The main thing is to have something to talk to him about- like I said, sports is great icebreaker.. Finding little ways to be around the person u like in a subtle way will introduce the flirting without it being creepy.. and make sure u never put too much emphasis on it to make u look stalkerish or too into him.. every1 likes a challenge so give him an idea that ur interested by opening the door for him to make the ultimate move..
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reader, dianalynn1821 +, writes (21 November 2009):
 Being 14, you have a lot of high school time ahead of you to understand boys. Let me say one thing, boys usually wont even get it if your sending signals that you like them. So a lot of girls end up trying to hard and fail. Number one rule in flirting is be confident!! Flirting can be very tricky but what can work is showing him your smile. Guys always think a girl is prettier when she's smiling. Another is laugh at his jokes. But not all of them, thats trying to hard remember. One good trick is if you have a class with him, at one point make eye contact with him and give him a small sweet little smile; then dont look at him for the rest of the class! It'll peak his interest. And be funny if you can, being able to make a guy laugh is one way to charm him. There are other little things that will help you flirt along and grab his attention. Wear lip gloss, not lipstick. Sneakers are for P.E....try short heels or pretty flats. Style your hair in the morning, yes it might take 10 extra minutes but youll be suprised at reactions you could get. And stay in fashion, it sounds superficial but deary your in high school its a must. I cannot say too much more but be CONFIDENT in yourself. And smile smile smile :) Dont forget.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (21 November 2009):
 I think it is totally normal not to have a boyfriend at your age so don't worry about it. I don't think you need instructions on flirting because you would just be following recommendations and acting fake rather than being yourself. I personally think it is better to be yourself and behave as you normally would in front of boys. A boyfriend who lasts more than five minutes will like you for who you are, not what you act like when you are trying out all the flirting tips. I suggest you just stop worrying and if you don't have a boyfriend for a couple of years...so what? Most girls of your age will be single too.
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