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writes: Dear Cupid, I have lots of acne on my,and I'm short too and my friends always mock at me and called me names. I'm 14 this year. I have difficulty looking for a boyfriend, and i wanted to have a boyfriend who loves me for who I'm. And I seem like the only girl in school who is still single, and people laugh at me too. What should I do? I was rejected by a guy last December and I still like him now...I can't forget him. what should I do? -How-
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): Dear Anonymous, I know how it feels. I too have acne. But i have never had a problem with fitting in. I have the best of friends! Try having a great personality. I know many girls from my school that have bad acne, but goreous boyfriends. Keep a smile on the face and laugh generously. What does that mean you may ask? I call it lauging generously because when you have acne, you feel like you dont belong with your beautiful friends. Or you are simply not good enough. But when you keep a great attitude you are very humble and great! Find some friends anonymous. Because the truth is when you are shy around people, they tend to think you are not shy, you are just plain old stuckup. And c'mon you dont want people thinking that, do you? Now on the shorm term. We have alot in common. I am also very short. I am 14 also. Now what to do about the short thing. Make it fun. When people make fun of you saying you are short. Laugh with them. Turn it positive! Then they cant touch you. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): If you don't want to take acne product like PROACTIVE... alternatively, you could eat Vitamin C or oranges that contain of Vitamin C. It helps to your acne to disappear quicker.I used PROACTIVE before, it is quick good. But it leaves you with DRY skin. YOu have to moisture it every day else it burns :(Good luck!I guess, there isn't anything you should really worry about with the bf bit. Everyone like different thing, it doesn't mean that if you everyone else are doing that you have to do thatEveryone around me are like that too. But i don't have a bf till i am 20. The point is your don't settle with what you don't like and you don't do it because of everyone else are doing it.Lots of love,Claire
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2006): Honey, please please ask your parents to buy you PROACTIVE, like you see on TV. I started using it a couple of months ago and i am BEYOND happy with it. you dont have to go to a DR. (ive been to many, as has my sister and most of the stuff doesnt work) and you can buy it in some stores, or order it through tv or magazines. this will boost your confidence, and make you feel better, trust me. And forget that guy, I know its hard, but he'll realize it was his loss down the road, and you'll find someone better who WILL love you for you. By the way, im 21 and most of my guy friends love short girls. So be happy with yourself and people will see that and like you too! good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): Oh sweetie ... You sound so sad, and I feel like I know exactly where you're coming from; I felt the same way at 14. I was short and had terrible acne, and I felt ugly and unpopular, even though I did have friends. I am so, so sorry for your pain, because I know how hard that is.The good news is that there are several things you can do.1. Ask your parents if they will take you to a dermatologist. As you get older, you will come to appreciate that physical appearance isn't the most important thing, but at 14, it sure as hell feels that way. And there's no reason for you to suffer through the acne without treatment. More often than not, simple antibiotics will do the trick, as long as you don't pick at or "pop" the pimples.2. Buy a journal. One of the reasons I wanted a bf so badly when I was your age was that I wanted someone who would understand me, who would really listen and care. The tone of your post makes me think you're feeling the same way. THIS IS TOTALLY NORMAL! Everyone feels this way, I promise. I didn't realize it in high school, but now I do. Try writing in a journal every night. It'll give you a chance to examine your thoughts and get to know yourself a little better. And even though a journal can't talk back, one of the reasons we most crave having someone close to us is because we want to talk. A blank page can listen almost as well as a real live teenager.3. Pick a single girlfriend or two who you think is a good person and think about developing a closer friendship with her (them). Suggest a sleepover, or a trip to the movies one night. Don't try to spill your heart out to them immediately - use your time hanging out with them to think/talk about things OTHER than boys.4. Try out for a sports team. THis is a mega self-confidence booster, and it will fill up some of your time so it doesn't seem so lonely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): Hey i went through the same thing and im 13.Use your shortness as an advantage because guys like em shrot.Acne welcome to my world i have had it sicne 5th grade and im in 8th.The singleness is me to0 but once i quit lookin and just chilled find em as friends let them like you 4 you then they will realize how rele cool sweet nice and w/eva lol.The truth is guys are scared of us they feel less whe nwe ask them out some will say yes but they feel stupid they didnt do the askin. the rejection i had that but then i realized yea hes cute funny nice wut eva u like but hes an ass. He dnt no wut he could be missin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): Hi, guess what, I'm fourteen, short, have acne, and my friends tease me. I was just typing in a problem, and was just about to leave this site, when I saw your question! At least we know we're not alone! First things first, good things come in small packages! Like diamonds! When you're older, you will appreciate being small, and acne doesn't last forever. Visit your docter for advice on how to cure your acne, I did, and I got a special cream that really helps. It may be embarrassing visiting your docter about it, but they don't laugh, and they have seen it all before. Your friends shouldn't tease you, speak to them, and tell them you feel touchy about the way you look and feel, if they're good friends, they'll listen to you and stop teasing you. If not, find some more worthy friends who'll respect you more. As for the lad, well, I've never had a boyfriend, I've got loads of crushes, but I never ask them out because I'm scared of rejection. At least you're brave enough to ask them. The right lad will come for you eventually, but just sort out your friends first, they're worth so much more than lads, don't let this crush get out of hand, and take everyday as it comes.My last, and best piece of advice I give before I go and have a cup of tea, is think of all those poor little children in Africa, who have no family, no friends, work all day for a living, have no house..... You're in a better boat than them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all those who take time to write the answer... glad u all did that..phew..Erm, will stress add to more pimples..hmmm...btw, I keep on dreaming about that guy I still like stead with me, i hate it cuz I dun believe in dreams coming true, and I cry in nights. I cant confide in my mum as I not really close to her...
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (11 February 2006):
 You need to confide in an adult about how you feel, your Mum maybe and get her to go with you to your GP and he can advise you about what to use to control you acne.
The BF thing. I think maybe you are trying to hard. This will happen in it's own time. Just concentrate on feeling better about yourself. When this happens, your confidence will attract the right sort of friends and in time a BF you can love and who will love you.
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reader, shania +, writes (11 February 2006):
 Ok, your confidence has taken a good bashing....and what hasnt helped is your so called friends,laughing at you.If the acne is so bad and you have tried all the face creams on the market to no avail then i suggest you go to your Doctor who will prescibe antibiotics....they are designed to getting rid of severe acne....also washing your face every morning and night with a good face wash while taking your treatment.So what if your petite?....i know loads of guys who prefer small girls....Elvis Presley went for smaller women....and he could of had any woman he wanted so dont fret over your size....remember....you are still growing.In my books i think you should make the best of what you have got already....maybe your best feature is your eyes...or you have nice hair etc....once you get your self confidence back you will be able to contend with anything...ok,so you had a knock back when that guy turned you down....just shrug your shoulders and say to yourself that its his loss.Everyone has been turned down at one point or other.Your still young and at 14 it seems that everything is going all wrong....but it isnt...trust me.
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