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*ass1616
writes:well i have this 17 year old boyfriend and im only 13. and he wants to have sex this weekend but i don't know how to say im not ready. i tried to tell him through a text message when we were texting but he thinks we should and i scared if i say no to him face to face he mite force me to.what should i do?
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reader, crystlay  +, writes (7 May 2007):
You're still very young and if your not ready you must tell him! Not only is he trying to pressure you into something you dont want but its illegal to have sex with anyone at your age and he could get put away for rape. If he doesnt want to know after you've told him your not ready then break up with him because thats all he wants.
Good Luck and remember: tell him your not ready, if he actually likes you he will understand.
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reader, iesha_marie_030293  +, writes (4 May 2007):
hey im only 14 but for my first time i told the guy yes when he asked me and i regret ever saying that to this day. so i think you should just tell him that your not ready and if he loves you he will respect your decision and wait until your ready
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): Just say "Im Not Ready" plain and simple, thats what i did and im 16 years old. If he truely loves you he will respect your decision, and if he tries to pressure you into it get out of the relationship, you call the shots its your body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): hi kass1616,
I am 15 and i went through a situation like yours when i was 14 and in the 9th grade.I was a freshman in high school and older guys preyed on me cuz they thought i wouldnt know any betta becuz i was younger than them.I meet this one guy he wuz 17(12th grade)& at the time it was sep. then and little did i kno he be turning 18 in feb.he asked to go out w/ me and even offered to drive me home after school.
I snuck out the house with him late at nite we rode around in his car, talked and kissed.Until one nite he tried to get me to have sex w/ him.i agreed and we undressed or wateva but when he tried to get himself in.....it hurted so i yelled at him and pushed him off and told him to stop.he stopped as if he was kool w/ it but went around the school telling EVERYONE that we did it even though we didnt.He didnt talk to me anymore after i didnt do it and ruined my reputation know NOONE believes that im still and virgin(I AM!!) and often call me names(hoe, whore, etc....)People in my family have heard rumors in the street that we did and my new BF was told by a family member that he could do betta than me cuz ima whore...(BUT IM NOT!!)
*This guy is clearly using you because he thinks he can becuz u r younger.say no and if u think hes gonna try to force u.....suggest that yall double date...take a close friend and her boyfriend along.that way if somethin goes wrong someones there to stop it.tell him that u are not ready for that yet.and dont do things that suggest to him that u want to....and if he starts to kiss u on ur neck or somethin stop him.....if for some reason he does force u without your consent TELL YOUR PARENTS thats considered rape!!!!....its illegal for you & him to have sex anywayz!!
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reader, Midge +, writes (3 May 2007):
 Other than the fact its illegal, anyone who loves someone is willing to wait until the other person is mentally ready to have a sexual relationship.
If you even think that he will force you into it, stay well clear of him. Call him up and just say to him that you have strong feelings for him, but you dont feel ready to have that type of relationship and that if your parents found out about it, he'll be staring at bars for a long time. It doesnt mean you dont care for him, just that you want to wait until YOU are ready.
If he cant accept that, then he isnt worth it, and you need to move on!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (3 May 2007):
 Hi there!
It is illegal for him to be having sex with you. You are too young to be involved in such a relationship. He would get arrested and sentenced for sexual liasons of any sort with a girl under the age of legal consent. The legal age of consent in Australia is 16 although some parts of Queensland I believe this is 18.
If you are worried that he may force himself on you then you end this now... You do not put yourself in that position. He has no respect for you and should not be praying on young girls like you.
I dont care how much you think you care about this guy or he you for that matter, this is all wrong. You should not be afraid to meet with a boyfriend for fear of him forcing you to have sex, that is not what a relationship is about. You are far to young to even be involved with him let alone anything else.
Protect yourself, do not meet him on your own or be on your own with him. If I were scared to meet someone in case they might force themselves on me then you would not get me in a million miles of him. He is not worth it. He only wants you for sex.
Leave this guy well alone and protect yourself.
Take care x x
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