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writes:Hi! I'm 13 years old and people will describe me as shy or quiet. I'd really like to be more outgoing but no matter how hard I try I get scared. I try to have more confidence, and picture myself talking with confidence, but it doesn't seem to work. Any other suggestions???
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): aw man...what i'd do for you to go to my school. lol.
i'm shy and people have ALWAYS told me i'm not confident, my bestmates sisters used to pretend to chat me up just so they could see me get scared.
but i'm 15 now and i've realised, yaknow what? why should i change!
I mean, take a look at the 'confident girls', now are they or aren't they mostly sluts? and let me tell you, nothing puts a guy off more than thinking a girl is a slut.
I mean, i'm a guy, and i'm shy, so i find shy girls and usually like them. maybe you should find some shy guys?
oh by the way, never ever let anyone make you believe you're ''frigid'' or ''scared of sex'' or ''too quiet'', noone ever got kicked out for being too quiet.
''frigid'' is a stupid word sluts/players use against people who don't wanna give themselves away to just anyone. babe, if anyone calls you this it means theyre annoyed cos they can't have you.
anyways, i hope i helped, i totally understand what your goin through hun so ermm yeah write a followup and i'll write back! =]
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reader, Miggy  +, writes (6 March 2008):
I think that maybe you should join a drama group if there are any at your school. Although this may not appeal to you, it should help to build your confidence as well as giving you a chance to make some more friends.
I'm 15 and when I was 13, I was really shy, and drama really helped.
As well as that I also pushed myself to talk to the people I was shy with, and suprisingly, I found them to be really lovely people.
I hope this helped you,
if you need anymore advice, just ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): Nothing will happen overnight - but if you gradually gain confidence you can be the person you are that is hidden beneath the shyness.
Don't compare yourself to other people - or try not to too much anyway - you are yourself and no one else. Think of all the positive things about yourself and why people would like you. If you're that shy you shouldn't get big-headed over this! lol!
Ummm...I guess just try to be relaxed around everyone. Don't be afraid to have a laugh and have your say. Get the conversation to things that you know about or like so that you feel more confident answering questions.
You'll get there. Don't worry!
x x x
PS ... SMILE!! =]
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reader, Miggy +, writes (6 March 2008):
I suggest that if your school has a drama club then you should join that. It may not appeal to you but it will definatly build your confidence-it has helped me in the past.
This will help you to make new friend, and learn how to talk to people etc, it should also make you more comfortable about talking.
I am 15 and when I was 13 I was really shy, but I tried drama, which has made me a lot more confident in myself.
Hope my suggestion helps!
if you want any more advice just contact me!
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