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writes:[MOD Note: Multiple questions from the same user combined.]Im 13 and iv been with my boyfriend for 4months and I have some questions.1. We havent realy done anything he's said he wants to kiss me but every thime we go to kiss we both get nervis and don't end up kissing. I have spaoken to him about this and he says hes realy nervous but realy wants to kiss me.How can i get him to kiss me??? help please!!!2. When I started going out with him every one was saying I could do better and saying he wasn't good enough for me. After about a month they realised I wasnt going to give him up over what they said but now they are doing it again. Iv sed things to them yet they don't seem to listen. I realy do love him and i hope i am not being shallow about this? 3. I just found out that he asked two of my best friends out before me. I trust him and love him so much but I cant help thinking that he still likes them and he is only using me to get to them. I have spoken to him about this and he says is that he loves me and is over them but im not sure. Well now they text him and ring him all the time and they now know more about him than I do. The thing that buggs me the most is one of them is family.I know u will say talk to them but i have and they just say there just close friends and thers nothing to be worried about.Yet i dont belive them.4. This might sound a bit childish but i dont like being alone with him i don't know why but i just don't every time im alone with him i feal nervous and I wont even talk to him in school I just walk past him and dont even smile. Im a really quiet girl tho.But it seems that we dont have any privacy cos we go every where with other people please help what can i do to stop this ????
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reader, caitlynDivaBear9 +, writes (28 February 2010):
caitlynDivaBear9 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the help im stat worried because its my first propper boyfriend and i just want this one to last longer than the others so thanks for the info i hope it helps me. Im going to try it tomorra in the oark hope it helps thanx all of you xxx
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reader, The_Dark_Angel  +, writes (28 February 2010):
1: why does he have to be the one to kiss you? If you really want to kiss him, you should! When you are in your comfort zone, just reach up and give him a peck on the lips. It may seem scary, but its fun and not that hard. 2: Having people tell you that the other person isn't good enough is normal. You just need to ignore them and satisfy yourself in that you are happy to be with him, because after all, it is YOUR relationship. 3: It sounds like you are insecure and worried that he would cheat on you. That is a big deal. You both need to be open and honest with each other about how you feel. And unless you have significant proof that he's cheating, you just need to trust in what he says. I know that you're just worried that you're not good enough. Well, why would he be able to be with you if he didn't care? After all, it's not like he's just using you for your body if he hasn'tkissed you. 4: you're just shy. i recommend first double dating and when you feel comfortable, try being alone with him.Hope i helped!
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reader, AskAbi +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Well first off, i would like to say that you are still very young. I think kissing is perfectly okay with some one of your age. However, you shouldnt get yourself worked up about how your relationship is going. It is normal to get nervous when your going to kiss.. your still young and probably haven't got much confidence and feel embarrassed when holding hands or kissing e.c.t.
As your not at an age where you can fully understand what a relationship consists of, you shouldnt worry about him asking out other people before you, if you have been going out for this long then maybe it will work out.
I remember when i was younger and didn't want my friends to see me hold hands with my boyfriends in primary school because it was embarrasing, But once you grow up then it doesn't really matter about who watches you. I think you should try and talk to him at school as you dont want him to think that you dont like him.. and maybe tell him to talk to you too every now and again.. But you have to understand that it will be embarrasing for him too so dont get to worked up about him not liking you..
I hope this has helped you (:
AskAbi
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