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writes:please help im 13 and dont orgasm and i worry when boys/men go to do things with me i wont orgasm and i feel embarrased.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): This makes me sad. First off, the fact that you wrote men in your question is disturbing. Any man who touches you is a pervert. I'm sorry you don't have a parent that can talk to you about this sort of thing, and it is probably why you are trying to gain acceptance through sex...which will just lead to more heartbreak and insecurity for you. Ever hear the phrase, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. It is true, if someone really cares about you, they will be willing to wait for sex. You are 13, go play sports, do well in school and make life long girl friends...forget boys, they dumb at this age, and like I said- men are out of the question. A man has something wrong with him if he wants you, regardless of how mature you are or how old you may look. You are not defined by the men who want you, you are defined by who you are and what you acomplish in life, so spend more time discovering yourself, by yourself, sexually, intellectually, and spiritually...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): This happened to my ex-girlfriend. I'm assuming you've only masturbated before? She was really worried that she wouldn't be able to orgasm, and told me so. I'd advise you to do the same thing to whoever your sexual partner is. Hopefully he'll understand and will only be more eager to make you orgasm.
P.S. My girlfriend came the first time i fingered her. So it is likely to just be that masturbation doesn't bring you to orgasm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): Try rubbing your clit while having sex or try oral sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have not had sex!! blimmey i mean when im the right age
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): you are still only a baby why are you thinking like this enjoy your teenage years while you can and leave the boys well alone until you are 16 and officially legal to be doing any of this
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reader, Starkiss +, writes (21 November 2006):
 Your still going threw puperty! What are you doing having sex. I waited untell I was 16. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): omg your only 13 you should be enjoying being a teen you only get that chance once dont let anybody force you into anythink my mate had sex at 13 her boyfriend used her everybody at school found out she got a bad reputataion everybody hated her and she had to move away plus you could get pregnent if you have sex so use protection you may think its the first time im only 13 nothink wll happern but u can get pregnet and catch aids or hiv almong with others wait till your old dnt worry enjoy being a teen your friends may say they have done it and make you feel like u ent cool but most lie and havet they just say it to look cool but liars get found out enjoy your teen years plz
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006):
I vote for this to be bogus too; thats the embarrassing part.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): so u can then finger urself starting from this moment, ok hun?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): well like i said u shouldn't worry and remember don't let anyone do anything you don't want to you, wait till the right time comes x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnope i haven't had sex yet, but i have been fingered and if they ask me if its nice i would have to change the subject because its not really ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): thinking about that stuff at thirteen is really unnecessary because wteva the world around you says about sex n how great it is, u are much too young to get involved with it and you shouldnt try and act older than you are, so dont worry about it!! Orgasms shouldnt be a main priority. there are a lot of people you can seek help from, who will all tell you thirteen is too young to be into that stuff and u should be going out with your friends and having fun. Btw i didnt get that thing at the end, do u mean you've already actually had sex, or you're worried about when you do it will be embarrssing? well u dont need to worry until the time comes and u will feel a lot better if you don't rush yourself:) xx
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (17 November 2006):
 Anyone notice how many 13 year old females seem to be posting about their vaginal issues recently? If you really are a kid, go talk to your mother.
I suspect its another sicko getting off on their fantasies
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): Yikes! Are you saying that at 13 years old, you are worrying about having orgasms!? Can I ask? Why are you even having sex? Having sex is a big decision that will affect the rest of your life. Has no one ever spoke to you about what you are doing to your life, your future? Please think carefully about what you are doing. I know kids 'grow up faster and experiment quicker nowadays, but 13 ?? You may be caught up in that fantasy that having sex will make you popular with the boys...not true. Do you think having sex will make you feel grown up and that you will feel better about yourself..again-certainly not true. Thirteen is pretty young to have sex and although some teen girls make the immature, very poor choice to decide to have sex at this age, many don’t do it. And many of the girls who have had sex this young, later wish they had waited. I am worried about you, hun. It sounds like you might want to talk with a trusted adult, your nurse, school counselor or doctor about your feelings about sexuality and and how you view yourself before you make a decision to have further sex. Give this some thought and good luck to you, dear.
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