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writes: I think I want to have sex with my boy friend, but I'm only 12-13. I'm having these sexually feelings for him and dreams too for over three months.What should i do? I've been dating him for years, like since I was nine or ten. But it's the fist time I had feelings for him. And no I just didn't get my period i had for years since the fifth grade. Just in case your wondering. N-E-ways, I don't know how to control it, what sould I do? I've always been the sweet girl that everybody knows. Am i turning dirty? From a girl who wants to do "it" so badly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): im 12 and i have had sex..like alot.. babe.. u should do wat u want..if u love him u should do it.. my friends and i have had sex even my girlfriends//just make sure u use protection and dat u never say u love him or the sex..okay?...okay!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): Hey I am 12 and I had sex before but I really regret it but it ok you also should stop think sexually
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): yes if you are having sex at 12 you need to stop it is not safe and you will reget it later beacause soon you will find the one and want to share it with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): I'm 12 nearly 13 I know this makes me sound like a little s*** but i've had sex. And yes, every girl our age wants to know what it's like to have sex. But i regret it. Most boys take your virginity and then they leave you..wait until you're atleast a couple years older babe. Trust me, I wish I waited xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): i am 12 years old i lost my viginaty at 10 i regreted it so much but as the sayin goes once you pop u wont stop i advise you not to go ahead with it or tell ur mom and asked to be put on the pill or have a needle wich lasts for 3 years i have thet now but the pill is not always true so just be carfull
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): hey i am a 12 year old girl and me and my bf are like best friends i have known him for like all my life and we had sex from my side to u dont have sex with him i regret wat i have done i am so stupid of doin that
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (21 November 2006):
 One more word, if you're still reading...
Sex, especially first-time sex, can be a major disappointment. And if your BF is only 12 or 13 (or 14 or 15 or probably even 16...), he's not going to last long enough for you to get any enjoyment out of it whatsoever. Young men can be finished in seconds!
So having sex with him not only leads you to confusing emotional consequences, potential pregnancy, but probably will do nothing whatsoever to relieve your sexual needs.
I suggest you learn to pleasure yourself -- masturbation is safe and fun -- and stick to being "the sweet girl" for a few years yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): I agree with what the others have said here, but I thought I'd add one more reason that it's a good idea to wait. You've had your period for a few years, and that means you could get pregnant. Even if you used contraception, that can fail. I have more than one friend who has become preegnant while on the pill, and my sister had to have an abortion because a condom broke. Even just a pregnancy scare is absolutely terrifying. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, but these things happen. Not in every case, certainly, but often enough. You're too young to have any of those worries. Like the others said, Don't worry about being 'dirty', ever, it's normal to have sexual feelings, and to want to express them. But give yourself time. You don't always have to do what your body tells you to.
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reader, honkifuluvnicole  +, writes (19 November 2006):
 Hey sweetie,
Like mcbirdie said, those feelings are right on time. It happens, and the older you get, the more intense it gets, but there are ways to control it. Focusing on school, sports, masturbation or even just talking about it sometimes can help. And you do not need to worry about being "dirty" because everyone else your age is starting to get these feelings too, they just arent talking about it. At that age, it is an embarrassing to talk about! I sure was!!! But dont worry about it, you are normal for having them.
Good luck with everything, and just remember to wait, 12 is too young for sex.
xxxx
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (19 November 2006):
 Your feelings are completely normal and right on time. They definitely don't make you dirty. It is just that at this age that you really start getting hormones just flooding your body and it can feel a bit overwhelming.
However, I do think that it might be better for you to find an outlet for these feelings other than engaging in sex with your boyfriend, as it doesn't sound like you are quite ready to make that step. This may be a good time for you to start a little self-exploration and try out masturbation. That will help dull down some of the "gotta have sex NOW!" intensity and will also help you to be incredibly knowledgeable about what you do want sexually, when you decide you're ready to have a partner.
Alongside that, it can be a big help to have some physical hobbies that will let you burn off some of those hormones. Taking up swimming, horseback riding, or running can make a huge difference.
Best of luck to you, and do remember to enjoy your new feelings. They are completely normal and more than a little wonderful. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): if you have alot of sexual frustration- work on mastrubation- in privacy, if you start to get him envolved then you will want to do more...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): Honey you are soo young Stay with him if you can- but resist sex till you are least of legal age.. You wont be able to handle the emotional consequences if it doenst work out etc.- you sound like a sweet girl, adn I know sex can get in the way of a TON of things at your age- school, family, etc. And rumors are really easy to spread at this age too. When you are still developing and dont have as much judgement at your age- weather you appear mature ot not. I am in college and I am still growing... but it is a bad idea at your age- because I have seen my peers lose their virginity at such a yong age( even though older than you at the time- 16 and 18) and it does so much damage- and they end up failing school because all they care about is their boy or girl friend- all they end up thinking is about sex, and they cant handle it and they end up breaking up anyways. Please wait until your relationships and your mind and body are mature and are able to handle those heavier things. Sex is one of those moments you want to be perfect- and waiting longer, no matter the struggle- makes it perfect- it is unlikely that you will still be with the person you are with now... Try to get through middle school and high school- its much better to wait ( and studies show you are more successful with your carreer and decisions if you are a still a virgin after you are 18) It may seem a long ways away- but focus on school and family and friendships and activities- sports or arts etc. And keep busy and it wont bother you. Hope this helps?!?!?
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