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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): [laughs]
Yes, it's odd how people sometimes automatically assume that the question asker is a girl, even when the thread doesn't hint at it. However, the concept behind their words still stands. Girl/boy, the words still say the same thing. 8]
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): Hey, Aunties! You need to look closer. This is a GUY! He is asking about dating GIRLS! I just told him that having girl friends is great. But he should not be thinking about the "heavy stuff" yet. That will come soon enough. I just think he should enjoy being a twelve year old guy right now. It is really one of the best times of his life. It was the best time of mine. It is when you start to figure out who you are and what your interests are. Exploring around and learning some great stuff. You realize what a big world it is and want to learn more about it. You need to have lots of friends and aquaintances that you really like,...yeah, girls too. But, it is a bad time to start getting into "all that other junk". You will be under a lot of pressure to from many sources: movies, TV, etc. But you don't have to buy into it. Stay free,..and be a learner and watcher,...not a "follower". You will go through a few more years of "Suzie likes Jimmy, but Jimmy likes Kathy, but Kathy likes somebody else this week". You don't have to play that game. Be friendly with all you can be friendly with. But be yourself all the time. If someone "likes" you, that's fine. But if they don't, that's fine too. They don't know what a great guy they are missing out on not being friends with. Their loss. (wink) Best wishes, 12 in the USA. I envy you. I wish I could be where you are now....again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): I think that you should wait a year or two before getting your first boyfriend. At 12 you seem a little too young for kissing and stuff like that.
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reader, ask lou  +, writes (20 April 2007):
i think it is ok for you to date at 12 but deffinatley not for sex! that is something to be sorted when you are older. if you fingd someone you would like to date then do so just make sure you take it as slowly as possible and do what comforts you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): I don't think you are to young for dating. But for sure you are to young for having sex! You really should wait for that until you found Mr. Right and got married!
So if you allready whant start dating you can do that. But start slowly. Maybe you will invite him for supper at your home. You could ask your mum for making pizza for you two. Than you could play a game or watch a good film? How does that sounds? It's allright when you go for a walk and hold hands, but I would wait with the kissing stuff. That is a thing for Mr. Right!
You know, you are so young you are not ready yet for finding Mr. Right. There will come a few years you will change a lot on you body structure, your appearance and you will change in the way you look at thing and think about them. And also boys at your age will change a lot in the next few years. The one you like today will be very different when he will be 20 and the boy you used to hate will suddenly be a great guy. So try to wait for big dating think and looking for Mr. Right when you are 20.
Meanwhile there are plenty of things to do. Concentrate on your scool and look that you will get a very good education. Do lots of interessting thing in your free time. Go out with friends - especially with girls. And go to the book shop and buy some books about man, relationships and get prepared for Mr. Right. There is one for you outside there and you will find him on the right time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): (smile) "date and all that junk". Well, I am not sure what your meaning of the word "date" is, anon. I had "girl friends" at twelve, but not a "GF" as is now the cyber initials that usually means a "serious girl friend". My personal opinion? Yes, you are too young to worry about "all that junk". When I was twelve, I was very much into baseball and outdoor stuff. My dad was a great fisherman and loved to be out on the lakes and streams. As soon as I was old enough, we would go together. I was also into Scouting. I had a great time when I was your age. I wish I could do more of it now. Enjoy being twelve years old. It will never be there again in the same way. You have a long, long time to get into "all that other junk". Don't rush it. One step at a time. Just between you and me, "adulthood" is not what it is cracked up to be. A lot of it is really the pits. (wink)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): in my opinion you know when your ready. I started dating when i was about 12 because I wanted to and because I was ready. If youre comfortable with it then go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): Well as to answer questions like this, I don't think what we think is really that important. What's important is what you think and how you feel about it.
There was an article on someone's blog recently about being annoyed that in today's times, children are often swamped with homework, getting stressed out, already in the dating game, taking drugs at an early age, having sex and some getting pregnant, etc, etc. It's just that, the way I remember it when I was 12 were children having a good time, go on field trips, do fun things while learn and stuff. It wasn't so complicated, and that was only in the early 90's.
Nowadays, kids are always following a trend, always never want to be left out of the loop, always want to stay in fashion, look cool, be accepted. It's so un-children like. Sure, I started checking out girls when I was in my early teens, but I didn't think about dating anyone per se. All I did back in the day was play games on my computer, bus around and visit friends, have sleep overs and gossip about stuff, collect and trade Upper Deck sports cards and talk about little things that don't matter.
Then again, that was my life, and your's is your own.
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