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writes:Hi aunt's and uncle's. I have a confusing situation regarding a man I am dating. We have been dating about month now and talking since the beginning of September. I sometimes get the feeling he's not interested, but then all of sudden he'll make a comment that throws me. Such as - "well maybe we can do something for your birthday next year?" "I know it's way off, but just putting it out there." Or things like, romantic meals come up in conversation, planning dates ahead... etc. He has said how much he'll be to me once he's moved and that he'd love to have over to his place over Christmas. Then there's the side that makes me wonder about what he wants. How much he tells me that I'm sexy, how much me he wants me and how good certain things feel. He can a while where he has a lot on (and that's no problem) where we only text, then he can call every day and we'll talk for hours on end. Does he want to just keep casual? Does he want a relationship? I am so unsure as to what he wants from this little thing we have and I don't want ask him, but at the same time, I just can't read him or stop feeling confused. I have not dated in about 9 years and I'm so out of touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm in hurry or rush and I've been single 100% for years, but there is truly something about this man that does something to me.
I'm not one doubt anyone or worry about the small things either. I more than enjoy his company and that's a rare for me, extremely rare!
As for the sex... kind of happened! But I actually have no regrets in that department with him. Nine in any department actually. :)
I am just going to enjoy the wonderful company of wonderful and awesome man and see what may come.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 December 2014):
 My question is this, WHAT do you want? Do you want to build on what you have with this guy or not? Or is it a little to early to tell?
Instead of trying to READ him decide what you want and GO for it. IF he wants the same, good. If not, you won't be wasting any more time on him.
HOWEVER, with that said, it's ONLY been a month. Why not simply enjoy his company and person and GET to know the guy before deciding if you can see yourself long term with him or not?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (4 December 2014):
Lack of sex will show you if he is serious or not. When a man knows a woman has not dated for a long time, what do you think he is thinking??? "Well it been a long time, so maybe she is more willing to give it up sooner than later." Real love comes from a lack of sex at first. Most women do not understand that.
If a man is willing to wait as long as it takes to have sex with you, even until after marriage, then you got yourself a keeper. If he wants sex now and you holdout,he will find the next easy target.
The question is...What do you want?
Long term...make him wait. Short term...give it up sooner.
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reader, lifesgreat +, writes (4 December 2014):
I haven't dated in ages and it is very confusing for me!lol
But it is only a month so there is no need for a major commitments at the moment I feel.
But take it as good that he calls you when he can , and makes plans for the future , I would count that as good signs .
when he is a bit quieter and only texting you take it that he is actually busy .. so he is doing what he can to communicate with you.
As you know life gets in the way of things when you are older so he will not be able to show affection all the time.
good luck :)
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